serratededges Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Ok my ex and i were only together for two months. I have never been broken up with before and I officially hate it. We got along great, complimented each other, he was attentive and thoughtful, and I don't really understand why we broke up. Either way it does not matter because the end result is the same. So after one week of no contact he calls and leaves a message on my voicemail. It says Hi ********* its me *************** (like i didn't know that) and call me back if you get this. I explained last thursday that though I do want to be friends eventually, I need two to three weeks or more without contact. I told him to call if he changed his mind otherwise I would call him. Did he forget our conversation, because it feels like day two all over again. I have nothing important of his, and I have no idea what he wants. Maybe he decided to call and see how I was, I do not know. So should i call him back at all, and if so should I call him back today or tommorrow. Please help me, I have no idea what protocol for being the dumpee is.
chrisanderson Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Call him back. If he says anything other than he wants to try again then tell him that you need him to respect the 2-3 weeks you asked him for
Author serratededges Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 I know i have to call him back, but should it be tonight or tommorrow that I should call back. Also should I act like I am busy doing something else. I don't want to be too available. Thanks
df273 Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 I wish mine would call me to get back... I would wait a day, return the call. I would be prepared to cut it short, but only if you feel its needed. He should still respect the time you want. Best wishes.
Author serratededges Posted June 28, 2008 Author Posted June 28, 2008 so he called again today.................. I called him back and said I was returning his call. He asked if I wanted to play pool but I said I have plans so maybe tommorrow. So tommorrow night I will go to see what he is thinking. If he doesn't have interest in us as a couple, though, I am going to have to not talk with him for a while. I don't know how to proceed other than cautiously and as my usual confident outgoing self. What would you guys advise. I really appreciate all of the help and support.
chrisanderson Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 so he called again today.................. I called him back and said I was returning his call. He asked if I wanted to play pool but I said I have plans so maybe tommorrow. So tommorrow night I will go to see what he is thinking. If he doesn't have interest in us as a couple, though, I am going to have to not talk with him for a while. I don't know how to proceed other than cautiously and as my usual confident outgoing self. What would you guys advise. I really appreciate all of the help and support. Well this could be good or bad. Take my situation for example. I met up with my ex about 3 weeks after she left me. she acted like everything was fine. She kissed me, hugged me, talked about our future. I was happy! I thought she was coming around. But nope, I was wrong. The next day she was cold again. So in your situation you just need to cut it quick if he's not willing to reconcile. You don't want to be his friend, you don't want to be his buddy. You want to be his gf and you shouldn't accept anything less. If you don't cut it quick you will get hurt. just my opinion. Wishing you luck!
coffeemaker Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 Yup - definitely go to see what he wants and don't plan on spending all that much time hanging out once you have assessed the situation. I just got out of a similar situation - just a one month thing but it was most pull i've every felt after such a short period of time and i got friend-zoned. Suffice to say, to protect yourself emotionally, you should NOT settle for anything less then his gf. I tend to believe that once the spark is there continued interaction, even as buddies will only build upon the attraction. So hang out and see what he wants, and if its just to be your buddy, cut him loose.
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