kittygogogo Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 My boyfriend of a very short time broke up with me a month ago. He is too emotionally immature to handle a relationship, but he claims to love me and has contacted me via email that he wants to be my friend and misses me and loves me, blah, blah, blah... (If you love me so much why did you break up with me???) He left town right after the break-up for a month, but is back now. I thought I was doing ok, but as soon as I knew he was back (via his blog), I lost it and have been crying for days. It's even worse than before cause now he's in town and I can't see him and I will never see him again and it is breaking me. I feel so cheated because he broke things off so quickly after we met, even though we got along great and really liked each other. On top of this, the depression has caused me to seek therapy and now I need to go to a psychiatrist to get meds for ADD and need to see a therapist hard-core. I am so overwhelmed and depressed and scared and want to call him because I need him, but I know I can't because he is why I am here (that and my messed up brain). It's a lot to deal with and I don't know how to handle my pain and fear.
LikeCharlotte Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 My boyfriend of a very short time broke up with me a month ago. He is too emotionally immature to handle a relationship, but he claims to love me and has contacted me via email that he wants to be my friend and misses me and loves me, blah, blah, blah... (If you love me so much why did you break up with me???) He left town right after the break-up for a month, but is back now. I thought I was doing ok, but as soon as I knew he was back (via his blog), I lost it and have been crying for days. It's even worse than before cause now he's in town and I can't see him and I will never see him again and it is breaking me. I feel so cheated because he broke things off so quickly after we met, even though we got along great and really liked each other. On top of this, the depression has caused me to seek therapy and now I need to go to a psychiatrist to get meds for ADD and need to see a therapist hard-core. I am so overwhelmed and depressed and scared and want to call him because I need him, but I know I can't because he is why I am here (that and my messed up brain). It's a lot to deal with and I don't know how to handle my pain and fear.I know it seems hard right now but you are doing the right thing by not reaching out to him. What stands out about your post is that you need him. You need to become strong and stable again. You need to survive. You need to conquer the depression, and you shall if your willingness to seek assistance is any indication of your strength. You don't need him and for as long as you think that you do you can't hope to start a healthy relationship with him or anyone else. It is okay to need another person. Please don't take it the wrong way. People need people it is our nature but you didn't get that far into the relationship with him and so it is an inappropriate desire. I'm sure you know that. When you are better you will find someone who is just as prepared to fight difficulty along with you.
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