Kyle323 Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 I got back in touch with an ex of mine for a second chance. We met once and then we met for a date. We seemed to hit it off and we were talking about future dates, but she said she was scared to get back into a relationship because her previous bf died. I didn't know how to handle this situaiton so I left it alone, she was a little hurt by this and she started to see another guy and once he got date number two, I gave up on her. A couple of months later, I got back in touch with her to convince myself that I have no future chance with her. I thought she could say that there wasn't any romantic connection but this is all she said: "Its good to hear from you. You are a really nice and sweet guy. Im actually in a relationship right now. I just feel like when you and I hang out you seem very tense, you dont seem very comfortable with me. I would like to remain friends though, if nothing else. Im sorry if thats not what you want to hear." She wrote me that on Monday and I just got to read it the other day and apparently she's out of the relationship. I was a bit nervous becaue I got back in touch with her for a second chance. From what she said is she saying no chance in a nice way? Any thoughts?
CaliGuy Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 I got back in touch with an ex of mine for a second chance. We met once and then we met for a date. We seemed to hit it off and we were talking about future dates, but she said she was scared to get back into a relationship because her previous bf died. I didn't know how to handle this situaiton so I left it alone, she was a little hurt by this and she started to see another guy and once he got date number two, I gave up on her. A couple of months later, I got back in touch with her to convince myself that I have no future chance with her. I thought she could say that there wasn't any romantic connection but this is all she said: "Its good to hear from you. You are a really nice and sweet guy. Im actually in a relationship right now. I just feel like when you and I hang out you seem very tense, you dont seem very comfortable with me. I would like to remain friends though, if nothing else. Im sorry if thats not what you want to hear." She wrote me that on Monday and I just got to read it the other day and apparently she's out of the relationship. I was a bit nervous becaue I got back in touch with her for a second chance. From what she said is she saying no chance in a nice way? Any thoughts? Seems like you are doing all the pursuing. To her, you have no value because she doesn't have to do anything to have you. If she's tense in the relationship, it's because somewhere/somehow she is feeling pressure from you for more than she is willing to give. I personally would just find someone new. It's better to start off a new relationship where the ground is even, than start with an old relationship in a very deep hole. And that's the crux of second chances. You can never start your second chance on even ground and thus, it's doomed from the beginning.
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