Samari Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Hey. So I seem to be attracted to healthy/slender looking women. I don't think I could date someone that didn't really fall into that category. I really appreciate girls that tend to take care of their bodies. They don't have to be a health nut and hit the gym all the time or even so, but just be aware of their health and take it into consideration...even if it's casually. I think I just like that body type as well. Do you think this is a shallow approach to being attracted to women? I don't disrespect anyone that doesn't fit the mold or whatever, but just in terms of who I may be attracted to, I think it would just be that type of female.
Kamille Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Hey. So I seem to be attracted to healthy/slender looking women. I don't think I could date someone that didn't really fall into that category. I really appreciate girls that tend to take care of their bodies. They don't have to be a health nut and hit the gym all the time or even so, but just be aware of their health and take it into consideration...even if it's casually. I think I just like that body type as well. Do you think this is a shallow approach to being attracted to women? I don't disrespect anyone that doesn't fit the mold or whatever, but just in terms of who I may be attracted to, I think it would just be that type of female. Is this a philosophical question of the kind: do we chose who we are attracted to or does society dictate it for us? Is one shallow if one is attracted to people who fit current ideals of beauty? Or are you saying you value a woman's physical type over her other attributes (such as sense of humor, intelligence, etc.) Samari, you're attracted to who you're attracted to. I also have a type: smart men. Can I change who I find attractive? No. Does that mean I discriminate against certain men when I look for potential partners? Yes.
carhill Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Interpersonal relationships are one of the last dominions of pure personal choice and desire. You like what you like. Good for you for knowing what that is You will also experience the likes and desires of others which might be in conflict with yours....like if you find a woman attractive and she feels no attraction to you. This is equally as proper and healthy as your attraction preference. Enjoy!
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 I think it's fair not to be attracted to people who aren't within a healthy weight range, because being overweight (or underweight, for that matter) says something about you as a person--that you don't take care of yourself, that you overindulge, et cetera. I don't think those are attractive personality traits. I wouldn't date someone with a mindset like that, and I don't think that's shallow in the least.
NeverLetMeDownAgain Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 being overweight (or underweight, for that matter) says something about you as a person--that you don't take care of yourself, that you overindulge, et cetera. How quick people assume. What about people who need to take medication for certain conditions (i.e., bipolar disorder, depression, etc.) and one of the side effects is weight gain/loss? What does that say about a person? That they don't take care of themselves? On the contrary, taking medication that one needs is a great indication that they take care of themselves. People need to stop assuming that weight gain (or loss - just so there's no misunderstanding) automatically means slothful, lazy, good for nothing, overindulgence, etc. etc., ad nauseum. With that said... Do you think this is a shallow approach to being attracted to women? Not at all. You like what you like, and if you choose not to date someone that's overweight, that's your right and your business. Personally, I adore males with snuggly stomachs - that's not something I'm going to get from a guy that has six-pack abs - but again, that's my preference and I won't settle for less. Neither should you or anyone else. If you see a fit, slender woman you like, go for it
bish Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Hey. So I seem to be attracted to healthy/slender looking women. I don't think I could date someone that didn't really fall into that category. I really appreciate girls that tend to take care of their bodies. They don't have to be a health nut and hit the gym all the time or even so, but just be aware of their health and take it into consideration...even if it's casually. I think I just like that body type as well. Do you think this is a shallow approach to being attracted to women? Well i'm not going to call you shallow, but let me ask you this. What would you say about a woman that you are seeing that would dump you if you gained a few pounds and started going bald?
Sks Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Females that are semi muscular and rough are the most attractive to me personally, its not just about how they look, its about who they are underneath as well. What they stand for, what they believe in.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 How quick people assume. What about people who need to take medication for certain conditions (i.e., bipolar disorder, depression, etc.) and one of the side effects is weight gain/loss? What does that say about a person? That they don't take care of themselves? On the contrary, taking medication that one needs is a great indication that they take care of themselves. People need to stop assuming that weight gain (or loss - just so there's no misunderstanding) automatically means slothful, lazy, good for nothing, overindulgence, etc. etc., ad nauseum. Wow, really? More than half the adult population of the United States is obese and rising--are you making this excuse for all of them? Take some responsbility--if an antidepressant is causing you drastic weight gain, consult your doctor, because there are many that don't. If it's increasing your cravings, exercise. Almsot without exception, you can avoid being overweight by being healthy and active. For the same reason I wouldn't date an alcoholic, I wouldn't date an overweight person. Even if it's not "completely" his or her fault (although it really always is up to you, on some level), it's not healthy, and it's not right.
Trialbyfire Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 Hey. So I seem to be attracted to healthy/slender looking women. I don't think I could date someone that didn't really fall into that category. I really appreciate girls that tend to take care of their bodies. They don't have to be a health nut and hit the gym all the time or even so, but just be aware of their health and take it into consideration...even if it's casually. I think I just like that body type as well. Do you think this is a shallow approach to being attracted to women? I don't disrespect anyone that doesn't fit the mold or whatever, but just in terms of who I may be attracted to, I think it would just be that type of female. There's nothing wrong with having criteria but I don't see much else being asked for beyond the external. If that's all you want, yes, I would call you shallow.
NeverLetMeDownAgain Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 More than half the adult population of the United States is obese and rising--are you making this excuse for all of them? Not at all. I am not saying that the OP is wrong, or even that you're wrong. You're not - personal taste in physical appearance is all subjective. However, I am asking that you consider the fact that being overweight (and let's face it, that's what you meant) is not always because a person is too "lazy" or eats too much or has self-destructive behaviors. Yes, some do have that habit - but a lot of overweight people that I know fight very hard to stay in shape, believe it or not. I see more overweight people at my gym and busting tail to try and conform to a societal idea of what's 'beautiful' than "normal" folk just exercising to stay in shape! Some people have medical problems that make it very hard for them to lose weight - I could name quite a few off the top of my head - depression and/or mental disorders, hypothyroidism, edema, polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), Cushing's Disease - even certain kinds of cancer can lead to unexplained weight gain. (Yes, I'm in the health field, so I've seen some of this.) And it's more prevalent than a lot of people might think. I'm not saying that some folks are just plain lazy and don't want to stop eating and/or exercise - there are those out there. But it's also wrong to paint all overweight people with the same brush. There might be things going on that people just don't realize. Either way, it's all subjective. If you don't like to date overweight people, don't - it's all in what you're comfortable with. I don't think it's shallow at all.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 Not at all. I am not saying that the OP is wrong, or even that you're wrong. You're not - personal taste in physical appearance is all subjective. However, I am asking that you consider the fact that being overweight (and let's face it, that's what you meant) is not always because a person is too "lazy" or eats too much or has self-destructive behaviors. Yes, some do have that habit - but a lot of overweight people that I know fight very hard to stay in shape, believe it or not. I see more overweight people at my gym and busting tail to try and conform to a societal idea of what's 'beautiful' than "normal" folk just exercising to stay in shape! Some people have medical problems that make it very hard for them to lose weight - I could name quite a few off the top of my head - depression and/or mental disorders, hypothyroidism, edema, polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), Cushing's Disease - even certain kinds of cancer can lead to unexplained weight gain. (Yes, I'm in the health field, so I've seen some of this.) And it's more prevalent than a lot of people might think. I'm not saying that some folks are just plain lazy and don't want to stop eating and/or exercise - there are those out there. But it's also wrong to paint all overweight people with the same brush. There might be things going on that people just don't realize. Either way, it's all subjective. If you don't like to date overweight people, don't - it's all in what you're comfortable with. I don't think it's shallow at all. None of those are particularly prevalent diseases aside from cancer, and furthermore, cancer is far more often characterized by weight loss. In fact, there are at least as many diseases/disorders that cause weight loss as there are causing weight gain. The fact that almsot 2/3 of the US is obese seems less a problem with rare diseases that effect small numbers of the population and more a problem with the general laziness of the US population. Obviously if someone has a disease which makes them gain weight and forbids them from eating well and exercising, that's an exception. But it's a very, very small exception, and not one you can use to excuse the vast majority's laziness. PS: Before you edited this, you spoke as if I understand nothing about antidepressants--I am currently on Celexa (citalopram), which doesn't interfere with weight at all (and I've known people who have switched to it for that very reason, and it's been effective for most, if not all, of them).
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