megapositive Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 So he tells me he needs some space last week, so I give it to him. Then he wants to get together after a few days, but I say no because he's confusing me. He keeps on hinting about getting together, but I still don't. Then today I finally say ok, let's get together tomorrow. He doesn't return my call for hours. Then he suddenly texts and is like "OH too busy all weekend? Only tomorrow? Do what you want this weekend, it's no big deal!" After a series of texts he says ok let's get together tomorrow but I should know he's seeing somebody. I'm like, what??!! He says I told him I was, so why can't he? Then we go back and forth a bit about that, I say I didn't, etc. I said I miss him. He says "oh cool, me too." HELP!!!
Kamille Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Would you mind sharing more details, like how long you've been together and how old you are? No matter what, it sounds extremely confusing and, well, on the fight or flight scale, I think all signs point to Run Megapositive Run.
Author megapositive Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 We're both in our early 30s, he's divorced (married really young, only for 1.5 years). We've been together for about 2 years. He said he needed space after I nagged at him for not asking how I was feeling after I was sick for a couple days, half teasing him, half not. He blows up like that when he feels pressured, I know he has commitment issues. Now he's saying he wants to still see me because we have fun together, he misses me, etc. I don't know if I fully believe he's seeing someone else, or if he's saying that to get me to be all emotional and break down. I don't know if I should see him tomorrow or not!
Krytie TV Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 This is a complete immature game. Continue at your own annoyance. Your head, brick wall, yadda yadda.
Keridan Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 I was wondering if there was someone else of interest to you that may have prompted him to act jealously. He may have been creating an imaginary woman in response. I think the best approach would be to try and completely ignore his pleading and think about how you would feel if he were offering the choice and leaving it up to you. Is he someone you want to be with knowing what you do about him? Can you live with his tendancy to freak out if it means you get the good stuff from him, too? The pleading is a reaction to the situation and makes you feel like it's more complicated than it should be. It's not about guilt or how he feels, it's about whether or not you want to be with him. I hope you find an answer that makes you happy. Good luck to you!
Luv2Laugh Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Ditch this guy! He's a major game player. Game players are notorious for making others feel like "they're going crazy"
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