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Seperated 6 weeks..but contact is still required


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My wife left me almost 6 weeks ago (walk away wife thing). She only took her clothes and is staying with a friend. No big problems...only a couple of small ones. I'm quite sure that there wasn't an OM, but at this point, I don't want to know or care. What I don't know can't hurt me.

 

All our finances are in joint accounts, still have mortgage and bills that need to be paid. Still pooling salaries into the joint accounts.

 

She said that she is not coming home...but we still need to see each other regularly because of the logistics of our situation.

For the first 5 weeks, it was very tense as I was in the begging, pleading phase.

I had a breakthrough about 1 week ago when I realized that she really wasn't going to come back. When I told her I was looking at the situation differently now...and am willing to just sit down and work out what our strategy is going to be to get through this with the least amount of trama, she seems to be a lot more open to me.

 

What's the best way to amicably work through this seperation without me falling back to being all needy???

 

Any success stories of an amicable seperation/divorce. We really don't want to involve any money hungry lawyers.

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Of course its possible, now that you recognized that its did, done, and over.

 

Just be firm, fair and friendly and do right by her, but make damn sure you do right by yourself. Don't go hanging yourself on a "lover's cross" for her and give her eveything ~ there is Life after divorce ~ and you must provide for that Life for yourself.

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I'm quite sure that there wasn't an OM.

 

Don't be so sure... most of the time there is in one form or another.... protect yourself.

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Most women don't leave one man without having one to go to!

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