ajolie1982 Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Ok so here's the deal , I've been with this guy for 4 years. I have a daughter from another relationship but to her that's the only dad she knows , well last november 2007 a girl called me and told me the man I was spose to marry was engaged to her too ! Well i just believed his story and took him back . Well I just found out that they are having a baby this month together. I am truely hurt because we were trying to have a baby !!!! I'm trying to hold it together but this hard and I can't believe it!!! please help me
mollers Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Ok so here's the deal , I've been with this guy for 4 years. I have a daughter from another relationship but to her that's the only dad she knows , well last november 2007 a girl called me and told me the man I was spose to marry was engaged to her too ! Well i just believed his story and took him back . Well I just found out that they are having a baby this month together. I am truely hurt because we were trying to have a baby !!!! I'm trying to hold it together but this hard and I can't believe it!!! please help me Hi there - so are you still with this guy or have you split because of this? Sorry but I'm not sure from your post. Your priority here is obviously for yourself and your daughter. You need to consider yourself and your needs here as he is not doing this. Will post some more when I find out a bit more about your situation but personally, I would not be able to continue in a relationship under these circumstances. I know you have been together for 4 years and your daughter considers him to be her dad but you deserve more respect that you are getting. Please let us know how you are doing.
ate_the_paint Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 ajolie I can feel your emotions in your post. You must be really really confused and conflicted right now. That's okay. It's understandable. You mentioned that you are having a hard time keeping it together. Who can you and your daughter go stay with for a couple of days? You may find it helps to get away until your head clears, and there will be someone there to help take care of your daughter. Then in a couple of days you may be able to figure out what to do next. Some people experience things like sleeplessness, lack of appetite, lack of focus or attention, and dizzy spells, to name a few, when they go through something like this. It's a natural response. Your body recognizes some form of threat (in this case, to your mind) and is preparing for fight or flight. Make sure that your daughter can be taken care of as you experience these kind of things as you may not be there 100% for her over the next couple of days. I hope you feel better soon. Please come back and update.
Author ajolie1982 Posted June 29, 2008 Author Posted June 29, 2008 we are not together at all . I just talked to the girl she said they are not togther nor have they been togther since march . The baby is due july 17th . I do not have anyone to stay with . I am the care taker to my grandparents and we can not stay there . Has for my mother , friends and family , my mother died in 2001 and I do not know my father. My family and I are not close at all and all my friends are out of town . Im going through alot and my daughter is too . But it's nice to have ppl post and help thank you.
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