adibecks7 Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Hello, I dated a girl for about a year. This was someone I met online and I flew over to meet her in san francisco. Well things hit off and we end up dating for about a year. This is a long distance relationship, we spend a lot of time on the phone and talking online. Nothing happens, no other guys, we are totally committed to each other. The though of marriage pops up here and there but I think over all we were a pretty serious couple. So anyway one day in January before our one year anniversary she decides that she does not want to be with me anymore. She tells me this over the phone. She tells me "i need to live my life, now is not the time for us to be together maybe in 5 years." (which I'm confused about because how can you start a relationship and then back out so easily.) So I respect her, and let her go. Ok so this is where it starts. As I am upset about all this, all I can think about is to not think about her. To block her out for a brief moment of time (a week or so) however long so that I could move on and do my own thing. After that when I'm ready I will be friends with her again. Throughout this time that I decide not to talk to her she constantly keeps trying to get in contact with me. I would often write her simple responses but she would never write back. At this point I'm again upset for not getting a response after responding to her so I decide that's it, if she talks to me again, I will tell her how I feel about this. Again she contacts me but this time I'm able to talk to her. It turns out that I am quite over her already and that maybe we could be friends again, until she starts saying this: "I want you to forget me, I want you to go crazy with girls." Ok this is weird so I tell her no thank you I'm fine, why are you telling me this? She keeps repeating the same lines saying things like, "forget about me, go meet people, take this time to go crazy" By now I'm a bit irritated, first of all she was the person who broke it off, she was the person who wanted to meet people and make friends. So i tell her please don't say those things to me. One thing leads to the next and we end up in this argument. A few days after this, I write her apologizing about what happened and telling her that she is indeed free if she was looking for closure. she has never tried to contact me ever again. My question is, what is going on with her? why is she treating me like this? or trying to contact me all the time when she was the one who wanted to leave. And did I do the right thing when giving her closure because I don't really know why else she would still contact me.
justaman99 Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 She met someone else and wants you to as well so she doesn't feel guilty. -Just
ohwhyme Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 justaman got it right. I am in your exact situation and she found someone else within a month or even while we were dating I don't know. Sorry to tell you this man.
justaman99 Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Ask her straight up if there's someone else. Be strong about it and tell her to tell you the truth. Women say this BS 90% of the time because there is another. Be persistent.
stlnsmile Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Agree with Justaman...sorry...she met someone else.
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