Cov Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Over the past four years, I have developed a bad reputation that just follows me everywhere. I have built up the reputation of a man who lures women in with his limited charm, gets his wicked way and drops these infatuated women at the drop of a hat. I also have a reputation of being lightweight binge drinker, who goes all stupidly happy and loud when drunk, or at times becomes quite aggressive. Before I became somewhat Metrosexual in taking care of my appearance, I was scruffy, I dressed like I had just walked through Krist Novoselic's warddrobe. I have also have a reputation of being that school dork, weirdo, freak and a class clown in my later years. I'm basically referred to as a scruffy, weird, womanizer, who can't handle his alcohol. I've changed a lot, my appearance has changed, I still have my dorky, weird, eccentric side to me, and my funny side, too. But I really want to stop using women for sex, and get into a meaningful relationship. No woman with half a brain cell in her head would touch me and I want a decent woman. But my past seems to threaten any chance I might have with a woman. I don't want to seen as a scruffy, party animal, who sleeps with any woman he can, but I want to be seen in a new light, I believe people can change and I have changed, I changed the day I lost a woman who I now miss like crazy. So how can I convince people I have changed? I have a date on saturday with a girl I met in a store, and I get the distinct impression, that once she finds out about my past, she'll go NC on me and I won't hear from her again.
in_absentia Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 In my opinion the only way to change a reputation is to gain a new one, and the only way to do that is act and be how you want to be perceived from now on. It might take a long time but if you're going to be a 'new person' and want to stop being a womanizer eventually the rep will wear off. And until then, if there's really a chance a new girl is gona find out about your past somehow then just be honest with her, that you used to be one way but now you've changed. If she runs a mile then that's her choice, I think people have a right to know about their partners past to a certain extent. But you'll find someone who will understand that people change, and as long as you don't screw up you should be alrite.
You'reasian Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 Over the past four years, I have developed a bad reputation that just follows me everywhere. I have built up the reputation of a man who lures women in with his limited charm, gets his wicked way and drops these infatuated women at the drop of a hat. I also have a reputation of being lightweight binge drinker, who goes all stupidly happy and loud when drunk, or at times becomes quite aggressive. Before I became somewhat Metrosexual in taking care of my appearance, I was scruffy, I dressed like I had just walked through Krist Novoselic's warddrobe. I have also have a reputation of being that school dork, weirdo, freak and a class clown in my later years. I'm basically referred to as a scruffy, weird, womanizer, who can't handle his alcohol. I've changed a lot, my appearance has changed, I still have my dorky, weird, eccentric side to me, and my funny side, too. But I really want to stop using women for sex, and get into a meaningful relationship. No woman with half a brain cell in her head would touch me and I want a decent woman. But my past seems to threaten any chance I might have with a woman. I don't want to seen as a scruffy, party animal, who sleeps with any woman he can, but I want to be seen in a new light, I believe people can change and I have changed, I changed the day I lost a woman who I now miss like crazy. So how can I convince people I have changed? I have a date on saturday with a girl I met in a store, and I get the distinct impression, that once she finds out about my past, she'll go NC on me and I won't hear from her again. You say you're scruffy and a metrosexual...I don't understand. Aren't metrosexual dudes the ones that get manicures, gel their hair, remove calouses and stuff like that? Now why would you say no girl with half a brain cell would touch you? If you're doing the things that you need to be doing while you are with her, why would she be so concerned about your past?
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