sarabear86 Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 So, I don't know if any of you remember my first post. But I was struggling getting over someone who had dumped me. He didn't explain why but merely said he wasn't that happy and that he was leaving for a year to study abroad this fall and that he didn't think he could do a long distance relationship. To continue from that, we took a long hiatus from talking and eventually he started initiating conversations, visiting me at work etc. I was confused on why he was doing this and asked him not to see me at work anymore because it hurt me. But he did anyways, which isn't any form of malicious reasoning because he is one of the nices most polite men i've ever met. I think maybe he just wnated to see me a few times before he left to do his internship in a different city and then study abroad for a year. But since then he's been e-mailing me while he's at work and we email each othe back and for a ridiculous amount of time everyday. He also calls me every now and then and we talk on the phone for about 30-40 min. When he rarely has access to internet at home we talk on AIM for hours. I'm not sure what this really means, I'm also not sure how I feel about it, I think slowly i'm realizing we are great friends and even if we can't be together just having him as my friend is so amazing. On the other side of the story there was this guy I started working with this guy I starting having a minor crush on but I gave up on that because I knew that he's ALSO studying abroad next year and he's also 3 years older than me so I didnt' have enough confidence he could like someone this much younger. But after 3 months he told me last night that he does like me...and likes spending time with me. He kissed me and said he just wants to be honest and that he really likes me and thinks i'm cute and has been attracted to be since he first gave me this application at our workplace but that he can't promise me any form of solid relationship because he's leaving in a few months. Is there any positive way of looking at anything in my situations? I'm starting to think I just have bad luck
Keridan Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 I'm sorry you are having such bad luck. I do see a couple possible up-sides, however. First, you have a guy you like that likes you. You could always have fun with him and see where it goes. Might end up having the best month or two of your life. Another point you might consider is that you are obviously quite the catch. You have one boy missing you and another chasing you. That bodes well for future possibilities. Sometimes you just go through periods where your luck is crap, but you gotta realize it can't last forever. I wish you well and hope you find some fun in the situation.
Author sarabear86 Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 Keridan - thanks for your input! I agree..I guess a positive side is that for awhile I was on a stread of dating "tools" for lack of better wording...and it's made me feel a little better knowing the last two men that were attracted to me were very honest and genuine and it gives me some faith that there are more out there that might I might have a mututal attraction with. And you're right...I guess life is about memories, so if he wants to keep hanging out and make the best of things while he's here I guess I see no long term harm in enjoy somone who is sweet and cute's company. Though I dont' want to end up getting attached to him...so that's something I'm weary of.
Keridan Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Unfortunately, you probably will get attached. It's part of having fun with someone. As you say, though, life is about memories. What will you remember more? The fun or missing him when he's gone? Maybe realizing that before will let you plan your memories. There are a lot of stories out there that started with this part and ended with "We moved on with our lives and had fun, but then when he came back, we ran into each other and that's how we ended up married" Stay away from the tools and enjoy the good guys when they're there. My experience says we try for those we expect to get. If your exptectations are higher, I think the rewards will be, too. Good luck and have fun!
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