porter218 Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 The absolute no-no list for me is - cheating - lying - alienation from my family ( I wouldn't give my family up ever!) - blatant disrespect ( like trying to attack my self-esteem, that will just land you out the door instantly) - don't love dogs (I am not sure why I feel this way, but I am very turned off when a man can't interact with dogs. I really will leave him) - don't love kids, or show a lack or responsibility for their own kids and the list just goes on and on
Trialbyfire Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 More for the non-neg list: A poor emotional communicator, particularly one who withdraws when it starts to hit the fan.Selfishness.
Pyro Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 This stems from another thread. What are some things you will NOT tolerate in a relationship? If something comes up, that you have made clear you wouldn't tolerate, what have you done about it? Have you ever found yourself still in a situation with a person that did something you said you wouldn't tolerate? -Cheating -Dishonesty -Abuse of any kind -Extensive laziness -Close mindedness -Rudeness/disrespect -Immaturity I'm sure that there are a few more. Yes I tried to work things out with my ex after she had cheated on me, lied about it, and tried to blame me for it. Never will I make that same mistake twice.
annieo Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 Lying and strip clubs. Used to be OK with strip clubs, just not OK with table/lap dances, but my h lied about some table dances, so now strip clubs piss me off as well. But lying is the biggie. Makes me really lose my temper and then my trust.
Siciliana Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 Besides the big ones of cheating a lying.... poor dental hygene will kill any relationship I am in... because I stop kissing yuck mouth, and with no kisses relationships die.
Curmudgeon Posted June 28, 2008 Posted June 28, 2008 This stems from another thread. What are some things you will NOT tolerate in a relationship? If something comes up, that you have made clear you wouldn't tolerate, what have you done about it? Have you ever found yourself still in a situation with a person that did something you said you wouldn't tolerate? I won't tolerate infidelity, emotional or physical, and I won't tolerate abuse of any kind or disrespect. The ex was abusive and cheated. That's a big part of why she's the ex. Both her cheating and abuse came up and I divorced her.
You'reasian Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 This stems from another thread. What are some things you will NOT tolerate in a relationship? If something comes up, that you have made clear you wouldn't tolerate, what have you done about it? Have you ever found yourself still in a situation with a person that did something you said you wouldn't tolerate? Overly emotional or physical intimacy with the significant others friends, esp. in the context of a monogamous relationship. I'm all for my woman hanging out with her friends and having a good time and enjoying her alone time, but some actions cross my comfort boundaries. More specifically, I think spending the night - or weekend at a male friends house counts at one of those actions. I'm straight forward about that. Yeah, its happened before and it was the beginning of the end of a relationship unfortunately.
Lizzie60 Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 This stems from another thread. What are some things you will NOT tolerate in a relationship? If something comes up, that you have made clear you wouldn't tolerate, what have you done about it? Have you ever found yourself still in a situation with a person that did something you said you wouldn't tolerate? I will not tolerate : any kind of 'abuse' (verbal, physical, etc.) a guy who is constantly late. a guy who is a 'doormat'. a guy who is rude to other people. a guy who would would hurt an animal or doesn't care if an animal gets hurt. a guy who do not stand children. a guy who is impatient. a guy who is greedy (I hate those).
Dark-N-Romantic Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 1) Adultery. I don't care if I am the biggest bore of the marriage. If you don't want me, get the divorce and let's go our merry ways. 2) Lying. I am talking about those who lie about things just to lie or about things that are relatives and important. 3) Strikers. I am not one of those guys who believes a male should not hit a female. If you hit me in anger and/or to do me harm, don't be surprised if I strike back. But at the same time, I expect the same thing if I cross that line (and no I have not since my youth hit a female in anger or to do her harm). 4) Control Freaks. Relationships is a combination of compromise and submitting (yes I said "submitting" which does not mean it is a one sided thing) and unity. If a woman thinks she is going to run over me and that the relationship is all about her, she won't have this man for long. 5) Abusers. I won't tolerate being put down, hit, having my emotions played, etc. 6) False Since of Entitlement. No one owes you anything for your existence. I am not going to pamper a woman beyond my means or just to feed he excessive wants. 7) Sex Before Marriage. Yes I have had sex as a single man and in many encounters I have even enjoyed it. But, the guilt afterward or the dangers I put myself in is not worth it. And I hope a woman shares the same respect for sex and can wait. DNR
Dark-N-Romantic Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 1. Being treated like the an ex who did them wrong. 2. Constant negativity. 3. Being reminded of past wrongs I my have done. 4. A partner not willing to engage into some of my activities, especially when I am willing to engage in theirs for the love of them. 5. A woman who can't control her drink. 6. A woman who is a smoke stack or druggy. I can understand and deal with a woman who has been a smoker and has recovered from drugs and I can deal with a woman who is ACTIVELY trying to quit smoking. 7. Non-cooperation. It takes two acting as one to make a relationship work, if their is little to no unity, I am out of there. DNR
bentnotbroken Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Cheating Abuse Cheating Neglect Cheating Disrespect Cheating Lack of compassion Cheating Empathy Cheating Self control Cheating Drug and/or alcohol abuse Cheating Narcissisim Cheating Porn Cheating Egotism Cheating Non-believer Cheating Sexual Perversion Did I say C*H*E*A*T*I*N*G?
tanbark813 Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Sexual Perversion This one is a plus in my book. Yay for perverted girls.
mental_traveller Posted July 2, 2008 Posted July 2, 2008 Crap sex life Boredom Serious dishonesty Letting herself go physically Serious drama/bunny boiling Serious follower of religion Wants kids Wants to get married Tries to change me Yes, this leaves me with a pretty small dating pool
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