Linux Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 So I met this chick off craigslist yesterday and ****ed her. We both knew it was NSA sex but she seemed like a cool person and I was interested in hanging out again sometime. So I try to contact her a few times and got some limited reponses (but responses nontheless), but she finally told me tonight that she wasn't really interested in making new friends, she just wanted to **** last night, it was good and thanked me for the good lay. I know this is not a guy thing, but I actually care and get emotionally attached when I have sex. Does this make me gay?
Nemo Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I don't know about gay, but you're definitely bi. You have all the classic signs. It's likely that she sensed it.
goingforgold Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Just because u feel attached to a girl after having sex with her only once doesn't make u gay.
Nemo Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Just because u feel attached to a girl after having sex with her only once doesn't make u gay. I think he might have done her several times, in several positions. But, true, it was only one night. One long night.
Author Linux Posted June 26, 2008 Author Posted June 26, 2008 I don't know about gay, but you're definitely bi. You have all the classic signs. It's likely that she sensed it. Damnit Does this mean I have to start sleeping with guys every now and then?
Author Linux Posted June 26, 2008 Author Posted June 26, 2008 Just because u feel attached to a girl after having sex with her only once doesn't make u gay. Yeah but I thought the general consensus among guys was you should be able to **** any random girl and not feel any emotional attachment?
imbewildered Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 .. but she finally told me tonight that she wasn't really interested in making new friends, she just wanted to **** last night, it was good and thanked me for the good lay. Ha ha ! This is womanbabble for, "When we met I found you attractive enough to have sex with you . However in the cold light of day I cannot feel enough attraction towards you to want to see you again, much less think about a relationship. I liked the attention and the sex ,but that is all I want from you. I am "still shopping" . It happens man , guys do this to women and women do it to men - it ain't fair but neither is the rest of life. Lose her number.
Tony T Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 So I met this chick off craigslist yesterday and ****ed her. We both knew it was NSA sex but she seemed like a cool person and I was interested in hanging out again sometime. So I try to contact her a few times and got some limited reponses (but responses nontheless), but she finally told me tonight that she wasn't really interested in making new friends, she just wanted to **** last night, it was good and thanked me for the good lay. I know this is not a guy thing, but I actually care and get emotionally attached when I have sex. Does this make me gay? You are neither gay or bi. You just don't understand contracts. This gal came out of nowhere for a NSA screw and that's all she wanted. Comprende? If you aren't able to keep a deal, don't enter into an agreement. If you had dated her for a month and then went to bed with her, I'd say you would be right to expect a little more from her. Emotional closeness comes from the mind, not the penis or vagina. Unless your wires are crossed, you cannot become emotionally close to someone you had sex with upon meeting. It just doesn't happen that way no matter what your sexual preference is. I think you simply may be needy and that's OK. Find a nice girlfriend, preferably not someone you meet on craigslist. Nurture the relationship and let things grow normally. This overnight stuff is of the imagination, yours, and it just doesn't work that way.
KinAZ Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Yeah but I thought the general consensus among guys was you should be able to **** any random girl and not feel any emotional attachment? Maybe some think "gay" but not as in a literal homosexual. Just don't do that again! Now you know that it's not your thing, so don't set yourself up like that anymore. I used an ex for one of those types of relationships before, and didn't at all feel guilty about it because I felt we had a mutual understanding about things. Too many emotions became involved on his part though, and over time, while I HATED to give up the regular sex, I did it anyway, because I wanted more... just not with him. I too felt like I had lost my mojo, had gone a little emo, and was no longer the Red Sonja of the romantic world. Truth be told, and I don't know how old you are, plenty of guys out there get sick of the nothing but sex thing. While their male nature may be telling them to "hit it because it's there", sometimes people just grow to want more. So my advice is to start practicing self-control in that area, as difficult as it may be, simply to avoid the disappointment that would follow.
Jilly Bean Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 You are not gay, and you are not bi. BUT, you are aware that you attach emotion to sex, so I advise you to NOT meet women for NSA events and then try to morph it into a relationship.
Kamille Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I advise you to live your life according to what feels right for you, not what you think is expected of you.
Trialbyfire Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Find a nice girlfriend, preferably not someone you meet on craigslist. Nurture the relationship and let things grow normally. This overnight stuff is of the imagination, yours, and it just doesn't work that way. Agreed! Craigslist is full of dirt bags!
Keridan Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Hehe ... dood, chill out. You are fine. There is nothing wrong with having a cool night with a chick then thinking you might like something more. Just gotta keep things in perspective. The plan was one night and that's what you got. Don't get hurt, get another girl with a better plan A few times I've found myself more interested than I expected after the fact. No harm in it. Don't read too much into it. Yer all good.
Author Linux Posted June 26, 2008 Author Posted June 26, 2008 Ha ha ! This is womanbabble for, "When we met I found you attractive enough to have sex with you . However in the cold light of day I cannot feel enough attraction towards you to want to see you again, much less think about a relationship. I liked the attention and the sex ,but that is all I want from you. I am "still shopping" . It happens man , guys do this to women and women do it to men - it ain't fair but neither is the rest of life. Lose her number. I'm not quite sure this is true, she slept over my house and then we went to have breakfast int he morning. She was quite comfortable being with me and (seemed) to be having a great time.
Author Linux Posted June 26, 2008 Author Posted June 26, 2008 Probably sex was lousy, she got turned off. Also not sure this is true, I had her moaning all night, we had sex 2 times that night, then again after waking up in the morning. She was either completely satisfied by the sex or a REALLY good actor. I guess I'll never know for sure.
Sks Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I wouldn't have intercourse with a female who I had no emotional attachment to. Sex in itself isn't that enjoyable and doesn't get me off, other elements must be present.
Cov Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I get emotional in sex, because they usually mess my hair up and I spend hours on it. I don't log onto metrosexual websites to spend hundreds of $$ on products for girls to mess my hair up. Relax, I get emotional in sex, it's just afterwards that I detatch myself. You clearly aren't cut out for the one night stand lifestyle, and that's okay. It's okay for men to be in touch with their emotions. I cry whenever I watch Forrest Gump.
Author Linux Posted June 26, 2008 Author Posted June 26, 2008 I wouldn't have intercourse with a female who I had no emotional attachment to. Sex in itself isn't that enjoyable and doesn't get me off, other elements must be present. I'm sorry. One night stands for me are way more enjoyable for than sitting at home alone wanking to some porn. Even in situations like these where I accidentally get emotionally attached, I rather feel the sting afterwards than not have the experience at all.
Sks Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I'm sorry. One night stands for me are way more enjoyable for than sitting at home alone wanking to some porn. Even in situations like these where I accidentally get emotionally attached, I rather feel the sting afterwards than not have the experience at all. There is no personal gain for me, I get nothing from it. We are clearly different.
carhill Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Glad to hear about your hap-piness Gay is a many splendored thing
imbewildered Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I'm not quite sure this is true, she slept over my house and then we went to have breakfast int he morning. She was quite comfortable being with me and (seemed) to be having a great time. The ultimate test of a woman's interest in you is her desire to want to see you again. and her ACTIONS in bringing that about. . What she was thinking is really unknown (and who really cares.) Women's feelings in these situations are as reliable ar hurricane predictions in Miami . If you "feel" even mildly attached to a ONS then stop having them . They are NOT for you. Go the standard dating route instead.
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I got used for sex once best time of my LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMAO! The only part i was mad about was she never hit me back. I wanted more sex! lol. She was spanish too and had a phat culo. Damn it was great. See men can seperate their emotons from the act of it.
Author Linux Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 I can handle ONS just fine, I have had them before but this was just one of the few times I got emotionally attached afterwards. I haven't had them in a long time, maybe I'm just growing up, who knows. I'm still going to continue to do it though every opportunity I get
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