rokkitgurl Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Very new to the community, this is my second post... here's my story... Met "Ricky" and connected immediately. He is gorgeous, yet my utter fascination with my lack of sexual attraction to his tall, dark and handsome ways caused me to make an emergency session with a shrink. I was told to ignore it and thus decided to work through it, and ignore the initial pain as an intense and rewarding friendship blossomed between us. I soon realized the benefit of having him as my best friend. Now after several months, we are in a conundrum... We care for each other on the deepest levels, yet know we cannot have the relationship we both desire. We even joke about this, attempting to use humor to mask the pain in both our hearts. "Gay-man in a straight girls' body" "I wish I could kick you in the balls" "Are you sure you're gay?" are the current lines. He even jokingly calls me his "wife". Sadly, he does not live in the US, therefore the distance of 4,800 miles is sure to only strain the friendship further. We are the loves of each other's lives, planning our future houses together with white picket fences, and red mailboxes... My questions: Can I love him on the level I do now, wish him every happiness in the world, and hope he'll find someone who will love him like I do? OR Do I throw in the towel and drop him like third period French? Is is ok to have him as my best friend without a future boyfriend getting EXTREMELY jealous? Should I tell him how I feel and let him know there is no desire for something sexual, just a lifelong closeknit, his and her towels on seperate towel rods, chick flick fridays love? rokkitgurl...
LikeCharlotte Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I know someone who was/is in a similar situation. They remained close and eventually she got over her romantic feelings and got married. He is in a great relationship and very happy. He is the godfather of her daughter. They live close to each other now and are happy to share their lives as platonic friends.
Author rokkitgurl Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 Thank you for the response. I am not afraid of being his friend, just concerned for the outside people who really have no understanding of what we have... Thanks, again. It is nice to hear that someone has made it work!
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