FloraPost Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I'm paranoid every once in a while that the STBXH might find this place. I really use it to vent and get the poison out. How often has that happened here?
ate_the_paint Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Oh ya..actually I was just thinking that at work today and when I got home you had started this thread....one look at my story and my ex would know EXACTLY who was writing!
kizik Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Nope. All our exes are out screwing new people and saying how we "just weren't right for them". The last thing they'd do is come onto some Internet love forum like some loser like me...
Lizzie60 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Nope.. there are million of people out there... when we think we're the only one in this situation, I bet there are lots of people in the exact same situation. If it happens, I would deny everything.. So.. no... it doesn't 'scare' me.
inulg Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 yeah my ex most probably has been here at least once after the breakup, but i could be wrong. i have a feeling he's trying to *check up* on me (like he really gives a sh**) but he wont call or email or COMMUNICATE. He probably would come here looking for some kind of solace in being the breaker-offer of sorts... i'm just happy that 90% of the people that are on here are dumpees!! (like me!! ) sometimes i feel like i should watch what i post. but you know what? i've done that the entire relationship. always WATCHED what i said. always was patient. and caring. and FORGIVING. UNCONDITIONAL and all that BS. its time for me to be angry and not give a **** anymore. *hugs LS*
sultry33 Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 sometimes i feel like i should watch what i post. but you know what? i've done that the entire relationship. always WATCHED what i said. always was patient. and caring. and FORGIVING. UNCONDITIONAL and all that BS. its time for me to be angry and not give a **** anymore. *hugs LS* yeap exactly.. i think my ex may know im here too, tbh i dont care, these are my feelings.. my emoitions.. my life.. if i cant see him at least i can come here be sad about it.. bitch about it.. not harrass my mates with it.. and everyone here is lovely an caring and a great support.. it will hurt him though if he is watching.. as one day i may just get over him;)
CandyGirlXO Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 It makes me so upset because I NEED so much help, but my EX has seen me on this site when we were together. I found this site back in 2002 Secret: I have 3 user names, but I wish I didn't have to. I feel like I can't go into detail or really say how I feel.
carhill Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I encourage my wife to read my posts. I can't think of anything I've said here that I haven't said to her face in person, except the advice I give others. When I mention LS to her, she says, and I quote: "That's the same cr@p I hear at work every day (she's a hair stylist). Why would I want to read it on the internet? (or words to that effect)." Hammer, meet nail Obviously, everyone's situation is different.....but, for this netizen, no black helicopters currently overflying
ate_the_paint Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 It makes me so upset because I NEED so much help, but my EX has seen me on this site when we were together. I found this site back in 2002 Secret: I have 3 user names, but I wish I didn't have to. I feel like I can't go into detail or really say how I feel. That sucks. Hey you can leave a trail of markers that will direct readers who know what to look for to the next thread and then if you add two and turn your monitor upside down you'll be able to share your stories with us! Or you can keep getting things out by posting advice. You always have good things to say to people and I think Y has a crush on you! I hope your ex reads that.
rokkitgurl Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 yea... I am currently trying to work through a heap of a love problem and I am a bit scared of people finding me posting on a site like this... But I am freaking out and living in a very conservative part of the world does not allow for the ability to discuss certain issues with friends. So here I am... look for my post on "Falling in love with my best friend; Did I mention he's gay?" somewhere around the coping threads... bis später
kizik Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I think Y has a crush on you! I hope your ex reads that. Y aint the only one.
justaman99 Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I used to worry about that but now I don't really care. This place has helped me tremendously. At least here she could read what I've been going through for the last 4 months and where I am today. This relationship put a SHOCK into my system like nothing else and I needed help and have no shame in that. She could benefit from this place as well. She's an internet junkie in a sense so it wouldn't surprise me if she finds it. I kinda hope she does. -Just
v33 Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I'm lucky, my ex isn't computer-savvy enough to even find a relationship board.
Nevermind Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Once I posted here, about him not being attentive and I mentioned that he didn't give me his new phone number (and he had had it for two weeks). The same afternoon he called, was nice and gave me his number. So, in that moment I felt that he was reading here. And I wanted to stop writing about our relationship, because it would have felt weird to do so. But, a few weeks after that we broke up and I found out about the cheating and that was that. I seriously don't think he ever read here, because it would have meant to actually spend time or energy on me. Which he didn't. For a very long time. So...maybe he is reading here. But, I have been honest on these boards. All of the things I write about the cheating and the relationship are true. Of course, I probably wasn't an angel either. My low self-esteem must have been tiresome. So, you can never get the entire picture. But I never lied, not once even though I did horrible things, too. I don't have anything to hide. So, even if he reads it...I am okay with it.
LikeCharlotte Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Ugh. I just wrote a nice litte post about how I felt and my browser had a siezure. "Where shall I begin, please your Majesty?" He asked. "Begin at the beginning," the King said, very gravely, "and go on till you come to the end: then stop." -Alice In Wonderland When I first joined LS I was paranoid that I might be discoverd but only by the ex. I tend to be very open and honest so I would tell anyone in my life anything I've written here. I am no longer worried about the ex finding me. If he went through all the trouble to look through these posts and find me (highly doubtful) he would only be hurting himself. He might be stubborn but he is not dumb. He knows full well that I need support during emotional times because I have almost no family and my friends are far way. He also knows that I would never do anything to intentionally hurt him. Anything I've said that is not so nice is beause I am healing. Again, he is not dumb. I'm sure he would understand he is not innocent of those feelings. Also, if by some chance he did find me I think he would leave me to my own space and not intrude as he seems to think tha even breathing the same air is distasteful. Silly boy! I might worry a bit if the Englishman found me but only because we don't know each other very well yet. There has to be at least 1000 American women that have met a nice (using that term very lightly) Londoner via drunk tired serendipity and talk to him every day during exactly the time we have; right? I think he'd love that I went as far as to ask for advice on a love forum. He likes to tell me that I "luuuurve him", that I am obsessed because he is obviously perfect and other such faceitious and witty things. He'd probably torture me for days but be grinning like a cat the whole time. 3500 miles is just too far right now. C'est la vive. As for my friends they know me too well to worry.
marlena Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 If it happens, I would deny everything.. Haha, Lizzie!!! I would do the same!!!!!!!!!!!1
MalachiX Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I don't get paranoid about my EX reading since pretty much everything I've ever posted here has been sincere. Hell, maybe if she read how I felt, she might not think of me as such a bad guy (probably not though). What I do get paranoid about is the few times I've posted on the dating forums and asked how to pursue a girl since then. I always wonder about the off chance they'd be reading and get offended. Nope. All our exes are out screwing new people and saying how we "just weren't right for them". If Facebook is to be believed, I think mine is actually screwing her older, previous boyfriend who's usually gay. I feel rather crappy for apparently driving her to that.
marlena Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I am quite positive that my most recent ex has discovered here and is reading my posts. I considered changing screen name but I am sure that he would weed me out easily. I would have to stop posting freely, go under cover, so to speak, and I see no point in posting if I have to hide my emotions and opinions on things. To him, if he is reading, I extend an apology for revealing very private things about him. I should not have done that but it was a confusing and disturbing time and I was in dire need of support and advice. If he is reading this, I hope it makes up for some of the distress I might have caused him by posting here. It wasn't done with any malicious intent to hurt him.
LikeCharlotte Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 To him, if he is reading, I extend an apology for revealing very private things about him. I should not have done that but it was a confusing and disturbing time and I was in dire need of support and advice. I do try to avoid being too personal and I don't discuss his buisness. In a vague way and only as it relates to me and my feelings. I always try to reamain respectful of privacy and anonimity. What I do for me shouldn't hurt others. It is good that you see that marlena.
kizik Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 I am quite positive that my most recent ex has discovered here and is reading my posts. How do you think he found out? I googled both my full name and LS nickname and found nothing that lead me here.
marlena Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 It is good that you see that marlena. Thanks, Charlotte (lovely name by the way). Yes, I should not have done that. It was my first time in a forum (I didn't even know they existed) and I was in despair. If I am right and he reads my posts, I hope he accepts my apology.
LikeCharlotte Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 How do you think he found out? I googled both my full name and LS nickname and found nothing that lead me here. I'm going to try that. I'm curious... LS comes up for me and apparently some other girl has a live journal with my name, strange. She looks nothing like charlotte, LOL. I came up with my name for three reasons that no one would ever guess. My full name wouldn't bring me to LS I'm sure.
LikeCharlotte Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Thanks, Charlotte (lovely name by the way). Yes, I should not have done that. It was my first time in a forum (I didn't even know they existed) and I was in despair. If I am right and he reads my posts, I hope he accepts my apology.Thanks! I chose it as a talisman to keep him away, because I read a story that reminded me of my situation - I was the girl in the story that was "like charlotte", and because like Charlotte in Charlottes web I have a newly found thing for pigs. I hope to be remembered this way: Wilbur: Are you writers? Charlotte's daughters: No, but we will be when we grow up. Wilbur: Then write this in your webs, when you learn: This hallowed doorway was once the home of Charlotte. She was brilliant, beautiful, and loyal to the end. Her memory will be treasured forever. Charlotte's daughters: Ooh, that would take us a lifetime. Wilbur: A lifetime. That's what we have. I am sure he will forgive you. Your intentions were good and that is what really matters.
kizik Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Yeah I just wrote some scathing, highly personal stuff in the Post Here thread. No names are mentioned. But if she reads it, she'll hate me forever. And I don't give a sh*t, b/c she deserves pain right now.
Nevermind Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 He knows about this forum, so it is possible. This thread had me thinking about what I wrote...I am not sure anymore. I know I did give the facts, but did I insult him? If so, that would trouble me, because it's not who I want to be. But I never lied, and therefore, even if he reads it (or were to write his side) I am not uncomfortable about it.
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