NCGuy Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 My ex and I were together for five and a half years. We broke up March of 2007. It wasn't a case of cheating or anything like that. We just reached a rut in the relationship and it fell apart. Since that, I've felt horrible. In January, I relocated 650 miles away for a job. I thought that would help, but it's actually seemed to make things worse. Since the move, I dream about her at least once every week or so, and it usually ruins the entire day. We've had very long periods of NC, all broken by me at one point or another, like today (after 6 months of NC) wherein I sent her an email just saying "I wondered how you're doing." I've tried going on dates, but I'm not very good at getting them in the first place. So far, I've been on two since the split. Not really sure what I'm looking for in the way of advice, but I'm willing to try anything at this point to get rid of this feeling.
Nevermind Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 You are in a strange environment and miss the known. Your ex has been in your life for a very long time and the break-up was not caused by misbehaviour (as I read your post). It's fairly normal to miss her. But...in order to move on, you must ask yourself some questions. WHAT, exactly, are you missing? WHY, do you think you're missing it more right now? HOW, do you feel you could get better?
CailinPig Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 You are NOT retarded. What you are missing is: familiarity comfort love These three things are what you are missing. You need to accept that this is your new life and you want to make it as familiar as possible. Get out and about the area, do different things. Like sports? Go play them. Like animals? Volunteer at a vets. Get involved. Be active in creating your new life. You were loved before, you WILL be loved again.
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