wareagle Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Kizik, I honestly think we may have dated the same woman!! No ****!!! In every post you make about the things your ex did during your relationship is some of the things my ex did in ours! WOW it's like reading about the women I used to love!
Geishawhelk Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 That's why I said it's not healthy to hope for the karma, but okay to enjoy it when it comes around. No, it isn't. Read my post again.... the longer you all hang on to Anger, resentment, Jealousy and feelings of vengefulness - the more bad kamma you're setting up for yourselves too. Enjoying it when it comes around, means you are glad of somebody else's downfall or unhappiness. It's not ok. But as I emphasised in my post also: this is strictly from a Buddhist POV. If you're NOT buddhist, and you don't ascribe to this train of thought - then you have nothing to worry about. Do you...?
kizik Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 Wareagle - Yeah well I just mailed our woman some books that she lent me months ago. My little note attached - "Here are books you lent me" - should help her understand that I'm f*cking angry at her, cuz that's all I said, no thank you, hope to hear from you, etc. Ah it's nice knowing she has to open that package and think of me... if only for a minute.
luvmy2ns Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 No, it isn't. Read my post again.... Enjoying it when it comes around, means you are glad of somebody else's downfall or unhappiness. It's not ok. But as I emphasised in my post also: this is strictly from a Buddhist POV. If you're NOT buddhist, and you don't ascribe to this train of thought - then you have nothing to worry about. Do you...? I have no idea what made you feel I was "worrying" about anything at all. On the contrary. However, one can glean a sense of satisfaction without "hanging onto anger, resentment, etc. etc. etc." Merely noticing something happening and having a particular feeling about it is completely different than wallowing in the hope that it will happen day in and day out.
foolednm Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 But that is karma. What you have described is a person who is never satisfied, never happy, always disgruntled. Even if given all the riches in the world by the best guy in the world and the best love in the world, your ex will still be unhappy inside because it's never enough. I believe the Buddhists say that desire is the root of unhappiness - meaning, that feeling that no matter what you have, you always want more, that's what makes people miserable inside. So, rest easy. Your ex may have the world in the palm of her hand, but she's not really enjoying it, never content. You are absolutely right that she is a person that is never satisfied. I tried for 9 years to satisfy her. After we broke up it didn't take her long to start sleeping with any guy that gave her attention. One time last year when I THOUGHT we were back together, we slept together on a Friday night and on Saturday night she slept with someone else. Class, huh? Then I tried kissing her ass for the next year to try to get back together but during that time she was seeing other guys. This week I found out she is now sleeping with someone else, besides the other guys. Yet she claims to be a devout Christian woman with morals and high standards. Right..... I have had other people tell me what you said, that she will never ever really be happy or content or satisfied. She just isn't the type, they say. Well, I hope you guys are right, because I tried and tried and gave and gave, and even gave up my friends and time with my kids to try to please her....and look where we are. I know life isn't fair, but come on, just give her what she gave me and I'll feel better.
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