qsmiles70 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 My ex broke up with me 4 mos ago after a very intense year together (we were both going through divorces). We loved each other very much but it was a stressful situation for both of us and that crushed us because of joint control and trust issues. We see each other because our kids are friends. He's seen changes in me that address the problems when we were together. He started a long distance relationship 6 weeks ago but has been lightly flirting with me the past 2 weeks since he learned of actions I have taken that show how I've changed my perspective and learned to let go of that need to control situations. I don't think I'm reading too much into things and believe he sees things could be different if we were to try again. Yesterday, I told him I needed distance to figure out if we could even be friends because I didn't think I wanted to settle just for friendship. At one point, he said he tried with us because he really loved me. When we ended the meeting, we hugged once (as a friendly hug but he hugged me tightly) then he came back over to me and hugged me very tightly for at least 90 seconds a second time. Today is day one of no contact. I miss him and don't know if he'll come back.
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