Stella Sleepwalks Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I knew he was getting his exam results on Monday, so I took a deep breath, broke NC with a text and he rang me within 2 minutes. First time we have spoken in nearly 4 months! The first thing he did was talk about his results, he was a bit merry and full of energy. Very happy. Ecstatic to be precise. First thing he asked me was, "How's your love life?!" WOW! I said, "It is what it is, and its none of your business!" He told me that he had made a life changing decision, that he was going to do an additional year at uni, gain his RSA (which is like a license to work all over the world), then "F off to Dubai!" When we first got together, he decided that now that he had finally found "the one" he wasn't going to do that. He started looking for a home for us in our home town and everything..................HUGE DECISION TURN AROUND OR WHAT??? He teased me for a while, (spent a whole 45 mins on the phone), then told me his mum is still very, very ill and needs a major operation. He got a bit emotional so I changed the subject. He then told me that he loves my mum, and that she is one of the most amazing people he has ever met. Then he said all these lovely things about the relationship, asked me how I was and then said, "You and your mum.... You are both great, great people." He also says he only looks back on the good times and that he is not angry at me, and that he's glad I got my promotion because I deserve it. Someone came into the offfice so I had to go. He text me a few minutes later to say that if I wanted to meet him for a drink tonight, he knows where to find him..... I text back I had to work becaue it was still a huge shock to the system. He text me a couple of hours later to say that I should ring him or text him if I wanna meet him. Then went on to say he is always in the new bar in town if I'm out I should look for him. My ex is the type of person who just cuts people out of his life. He has NO relationships with his other ex gfs, in fact, he has no good words to say about them. He sounded like he was trying to tell me that he was living the good life, having a ball, but when I asked him to specify he couldn't, so I think it was a mixture of bravado and nerves which is understandable. I got asked out today by a really sweet guy and said yes, so its set for Friday. I am moving on, but is my ex still interested? He seemed genuinely made up that I had got in touch, and the banter was still there.
roghornio Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 I am moving on Doesn't sound like it to me! Your exstatic he got in touch AND you've put this is the second chances forum... Sounds to me like your still hung up on him. but is my ex still interested? He seemed genuinely made up that I had got in touch, and the banter was still there. Don't go there if you want to go back to step 1. However if your willing to take the risk of getting hurt again - go meet him and take it as it is – some old friends catching up. Nice and light, have fun with him, flirt a little… DON’T mention the past unless he brings it up and if he does change the subject. Just cause he called and you guys get on does not mean he is still interested. If you think you can cope with him talking about a new girlfriend, or if you think when you walk away from seeing him its all going to resurface DON’T go.
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