moonbeam125 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I dated a guy briefly from school over the course of a month, we went on 2.5 dates...I was extremely shy (and nervous) and therefore not very communicative in person, but we chatted a lot for two weeks, nearly every day at the beginning over msn. He got busy with his new full-time job, I emailed him about going out and he replied back that he wasn't really feeling a lot of chemistry and wasn't going to have a lot of free time this summer. I was upset (obviously) but more upset that this "breakup" if you can even call it that because we never moved into a relationship, didn't happen in person. I waited a week and initiated my own NC because I wanted to make sure I wasn't going to get too emotional. I call him up, let him know that in the future when you deal with emotions to let the person know face-to-face. He got defensive, apologized, and that wasn't the point of my phone call (to hear him apologize) because it didn't make me feel any better...I just felt like it needed to be addressed and I probably rambled on about other things I shouldn't have said. Anyway, I go into NC mode for another week, I call him up and we have a superficial, but pleasant conversation and decide to invite him out to see a movie mid-week "as friends" but he claimed he had to stay late after work and sounded sincerely bummed out about not being able to go...he also said that I could call him anytime because he'd be around. Okay, so I call him up just for a casual chat over the weekend and he said he had visitors so he wasn't able to talk but will call me in a few days. I'm not waiting by the phone for his call, I'm just going into NC for the next two weeks. My question for you is, given the situation, is it possible that he just needs more space? I feel like because he's the one who ended things, that he should have already gone through the mental and emotional bits and "figured things out". I don't want to push him, but I do want this "friends" thing to work and I feel like we should see each other face-to-face at least once before school starts up again to ensure that everything's not awkward...but is it possible that things are still awkward for him? I want to continue having contact, but I'm quitting msn because it annoys me...I just hope I'm not being selfish by wanting something when he's not ready for it :-/
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