guy4576 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 [FONT=Times New Roman]My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months now. The other day she was crying and when I asked her what was wrong, she said she is confused right now and that she doesn’t know if she is in love with me any more. She said she use to be without a doubt but now she doesn’t know. She says she loves me and wants to be with me, but just doesn’t know if she is in love with me. She said she doesn’t want to break up with me because she does love me and she is afraid if she does, then she will lose me forever and she wants and needs me in her life. She says im the perfect boyfriend, and that she doesn’t know why she is feeling this way. She says she can’t imagine going on in life without me and that she needs me just as much as I need her, and that she would be miserable without me. Im so confused now as to what to do. Im thinking about breaking up with her and telling her that may be the only way she will find out if she is in love with me or not, but im afraid that would be a big mistake. I have to know, but I just don’t want to make the wrong decision on what to do. Any suggestions? [/FONT]
SnapCracklePop Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 When people first fall in love and begin a new relationship, there are the highs and rushes that come with this new experience. As you become more comfortable and familiar, you will lose the highs that you once experienced. Psychologists will attribute the highs felt with your body producing oxytocin, and that stops when we are more familiar with our mate. It is necessary to kick that connection into motion. But don't confuse "getting comfortable" with "not in love". It is a common mistake. Do you two still talk? Touch? Share? Look forward to seeing each other again? These are things that should not disappear over time. They may come and go in terms of intensity, but should not diminish entirely.
Refrain Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Right when I decided to leave my hubby I felt so much like ur gf: confused, scared, alone. I loved him a lot and he seemed perfect. Well, the truth is I was just scared of changes. HE was very supportive and finally we went our different ways. We live next door from each other (sick) and support each other greatly, but unfortunately we were not meant to last. Good thing that we both decided to split before hitting some rough times. I suggest you let her try to see other men. everything is clear when compared. Let her experiment with her feelings. I know it will be hard for both, but at the end you two might just be the right people for each other. Be her best friend and help her in this rough time.
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