broncos23 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Long story short. My x and I broke up. We continued to "talked" just not bf/gf. A month or two passed and she told me she couldn't any more. So we were officially done. One day she asked me if I could go over. She wanted to know why I was ignoring her and I told her why. She said she still wanted to be friends but I told her it would be hard to do that, especially with all these feelings I still have for her. She told me that she is still not over me completely and that she still does love and care about me but we cannot try on the relationship for now. Last night, we had a surprised birthday party for a friend. She came. She text me saying that if she should come, and that if we were going to hang out. I say yeah why not. As soon as she comes in, she's texting away. That has to be the most annoying thing in the world. When you try to hold a conversation and every two seconds you get interrupted so she could answer her texts. I couldn't take it so I just walked away. She eventually left the party for some else's house down the street. Later that night I got a text saying how come if I said we were going to be hanging out we didn't. I told her about the text thing and how I guess I got me mad because I'm pretty sure it was some other guy on the other end. I know I should not get annoyed at it but it still does eat at me because I still do care about her. Another thing. Yesterday she sent me this text saying listen to "Strangers" by Jon Bovi. I listened to it and the lyrics were pretty deep. I thought to my self there has to be a reason why she's sending me this. But no she only said that it reminded me of us. We got into a big fight , this all being before the party, because I told her she shouldn't send me things like that. I told her stop playing games. She denied it of course. I still don't know what to make out of it. So my question. What should I really do? I feel like if I just distance my self over time she won't care anymore. However, if I do try becoming her friend, I will get those feelings again only to maybe find out that she doesn't want anything more than a friendship. I also don't want her feel like it's all okay now because she has me as a friend now. Stuck in the middle. Some guidance would help a lot. Thanks.
quankanne Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 her rude behavior doesn't merit friendship from you ... or anyone else. Sounds to me that she's wrapped up in her own little world and wants to it to operate smoothly, so she does what she needs to ensure that. Like contact you, saying she wants to be friends. frankly, I'd tell someone like that to blow off, be they an ex lover or merely a friend. Because "friends" don't pull that kind of crap on each other, and it sounds like she wants some kind of mental tie with you that she can manipulate at will. And you just don't need that kind of crap in your life, esp. from an ex. tell her to just leave you alone, then don't respond to any of her calls or messages that entreat you to be friends. Over time, the relationship will right itself (meaning, you'll be on civil terms) but YOU won't be stuck dancing to the tune SHE seems to think you should be dancing to!
TrustInYourself Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 She wants the option of having you without actually having you. Shes playing games. You can play games too and win her back, which involves acting like you're over her. Or you can just forget her. Either way, the decision is yours. Either way she will probably chase you once she realizes that you are getting over her. Sometimes our emotions can prevent us from making rational decisions that are best for us. We all struggle with our feelings and doing what's right. It's really up to you.
Author broncos23 Posted June 26, 2008 Author Posted June 26, 2008 Yea. Thanks guys. I know shes bull****ting me because when I ignored her for like a week straight, she was like you can't even look at me this and that. I agreed to be friends because I thought it would be nice to just keep her as a friend, but that's not going to work out. I wrote her a letter yesterday and left it on her bed, along with a rose. It wasn't like a letter trying to get her back. It was thoughts. You would expect she would thank me for the rose. Haha. Nah, one of the many things that went unappriciated. Thanks again.
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