Heroes using their machismo to get the OW

[share&care]

I don't think it matters what the person's profession is.

 

If they have the opportunity and inclination, and a willing participant, then they'll cheat no matter what their career is.

 

What percentage of the population has a career spent in uniform? And what percentage of the population cheats?

These are good points. But I was specifically talking about cheaters who use their hero status symbol to get the girl.

 

I heard the NYFD had a huge scandal going on with fire fighters divorcing their wives for many of the widows of firemen who died in the towers. I wonder how many of these were MM/OW stories and if so, how many might have been shared at LS? Do any of you old-timers recall anything like that here?

[OWoman]

I heard the NYFD had a huge scandal going on with fire fighters divorcing their wives for many of the widows of firemen who died in the towers.

 

Why would that be a scandal?

[OWoman]

Does a train conductor have hero status?

 

That wasn't what this asked:

 

I wonder how many women at LS have fallen for men in uniform and are willing to share their story?

 

As for what Gwyn would say - you can look up her threads. Search on username Gwynneth and you'll see exactly how much of a hero she considered him to be...

[share&care]

Why would that be a scandal?

It was scandalous because it was the NYFD that arranged for surviving fire fighters to be paired with, actually assigned to, widows of fire fighters. The result of this sort of empathy program was an unusually high number of divorce in the NYFD and remarriages within it. Saw it on Oprah. Many of the divorced wives felt like widows themselves and sued the department for creating such a sympathy program.

[White Flower]

It was scandalous because it was the NYFD that arranged for surviving fire fighters to be paired with, actually assigned to, widows of fire fighters. The result of this sort of empathy program was an unusually high number of divorce in the NYFD and remarriages within it. Saw it on Oprah. Many of the divorced wives felt like widows themselves and sued the department for creating such a sympathy program.

I heard about this too. I think there was some kind of settlement reached for the divorced wives. Very interesting case to say the least.

[pelicanpreacher]

But I do wonder if the incidence of As among, say, firefighters is higher than, say, accountants. Anecdotally it would seem so, but perhaps those As just attract more notice because the dashing hero draws more attention naturally than the geek hiding under his spreadsheet.

 

Or the frumpy dusty college professor hiding in his bookstacks!

[OWoman]

Or the frumpy dusty college professor hiding in his bookstacks!

 

Universities are hotbeds of all kinds of, uhm, non-standard sexual practices. As one would expect - on the one hand you've got all those young nubile students walking around scantily dressed to shake up everyone's hormones (even if, technically, students themselves are out of bounds to the teaching staff), and on the other teaching staff who are by definition people who can - and are required - "think outside of the box" and so are renowned for their open-mindedness and creativity of aapproach - as well as being critical of prevailing social institutions like M (all the more if they're trapped in one themselves). So that kind of thing is expected, and surprises no one when it happens - hardly the stuff of media focus or public imagination though. It's about as surprising as finding a vicar in church on a Sunday and who's interested in reading or talking about that?

[White Flower]

Universities are hotbeds of all kinds of, uhm, non-standard sexual practices. As one would expect - on the one hand you've got all those young nubile students walking around scantily dressed to shake up everyone's hormones (even if, technically, students themselves are out of bounds to the teaching staff), and on the other teaching staff who are by definition people who can - and are required - "think outside of the box" and so are renowned for their open-mindedness and creativity of aapproach - as well as being critical of prevailing social institutions like M (all the more if they're trapped in one themselves). So that kind of thing is expected, and surprises no one when it happens - hardly the stuff of media focus or public imagination though. It's about as surprising as finding a vicar in church on a Sunday and who's interested in reading or talking about that?

The interesting difference between a college professor and, say, a fire fighter or cop is that the professor usually knows about various topics from around the world while the local hero only knows his own surroundings. An English professor comes to mind. This man knew about every topic under the sun from the politics in the Sudan to the nuclear weapons being secretly built in Iran. Knowledge was his tool to impress, not heroism. But to the other professor he was boffing, his knowledge was heroic.

[OWoman]

The interesting difference between a college professor and, say, a fire fighter or cop is that the professor usually knows about various topics from around the world while the local hero only knows his own surroundings. An English professor comes to mind. This man knew about every topic under the sun from the politics in the Sudan to the nuclear weapons being secretly built in Iran. Knowledge was his tool to impress, not heroism. But to the other professor he was boffing, his knowledge was heroic.

 

Professors like that are all too rare these days, WF, so he must have seemed a gem! Most of my colleagues are totally focussed and extremely well read on their area of expertise only, and even in the same department people tend not to know, or much understand, each other's specialisms. It seems to be the way of the world though and I'll resist that hobby horse for now, but I do agree with your point about knowledge being heroic to those of us that value such things. (It's got to be the knowledge, surely? We earn peanuts, drive modest cars, dress in shabby chic for the most part and have lower status than the illiterati that can dribble a football across a patch of grass... So it HAS to be the knowledge that makes the profession "hot"?? )

[Lookingforward]

Wasn't Gwyn's MM a train conductor?

 

not exactly what comes to my mind when one talks of "men in uniform" (but then I hear some consider the UPS man 'hot' in those brown shorts - ugh)

[OWoman]

not exactly what comes to my mind when one talks of "men in uniform" (but then I hear some consider the UPS man 'hot' in those brown shorts - ugh)

 

And someone else's W had a thing for the postman...

[White Flower]

Professors like that are all too rare these days, WF, so he must have seemed a gem! Most of my colleagues are totally focussed and extremely well read on their area of expertise only, and even in the same department people tend not to know, or much understand, each other's specialisms. It seems to be the way of the world though and I'll resist that hobby horse for now, but I do agree with your point about knowledge being heroic to those of us that value such things. (It's got to be the knowledge, surely? We earn peanuts, drive modest cars, dress in shabby chic for the most part and have lower status than the illiterati that can dribble a football across a patch of grass... So it HAS to be the knowledge that makes the profession "hot"?? )

Yes, knowledge is sexy.

 

English professors and Speech/Communications professors are the ones who seem to know global issues. They're the ones who seek the very knowledge of God. Watch out for those ones;)

[Lookingforward]

And someone else's W had a thing for the postman...

 

ah well the mailman and milkman have always had an 'edge' with the MW it seems LOL, or perhaps that's just willingness meeting opportunity

[OWoman]

Yes, knowledge is sexy.

 

English professors and Speech/Communications professors are the ones who seem to know global issues. They're the ones who seek the very knowledge of God. Watch out for those ones;)

 

And the science profs usually land up marrying their grad students because they can't get a date...

[Lookingforward]

And the science profs usually land up marrying their grad students because they can't get a date...

 

Never had the slightest inclination towards a prof, but I am a sucker for a hot geeky type LOL

 

I think knowledge and competence in any field can be attractive.