trubella Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I've had a myspace for awhile now and my BF has seen it before but he didnt seem to care. I was changing my myspace layout earlier today and decided to a search by typing in his email addy and lo and behold he has a myspace too, that i knew nothing about. i dont know if i should be upset or not, more surprised than anything. it doesnt look like hes had it that long- only 2 people on his list, and he did put IAR for his status. he logged in 4 days ago. he just failed to mention that to me for whatever reason. hmm. would it bother you if your SO had a myspace or facebook and didnt tell you about it? maybe im just overreacting.
CaliGuy Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 2 friends and says he's in a relationship? Yes. You are over reacting.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 It's nothing to be worried about. Seems like he's only created the profile recently and his last log on date was 4 days ago. Unless he has about 1000 friends, I don't see the need to start an argument about it.
Nemo Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Is one of them a hot guy named "Tom"? He could be gay.
Author trubella Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 Is one of them a hot guy named "Tom"? He could be gay. :Dthat made me laugh, tom is number 1 on his list, #2 is his little brother. im not gonna argue with him about it. just thought it was odd he never mentioned the myspace to me. ah well.
Keridan Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I have a myspace and all that but I never mention it and I think my only friends are my wife and her sister. I haven't logged in for a very long time. Ask him what's up. It doesn't have to be a confrontation. Especially when you are calm about this. Just say you were thinking about him and took a look and now you want to be friends on there. And if he's that close to Tom, tell him to be careful. That guy gets around! He has more "friends" on that site than anyone else! I hear he's a dirty whore
Lauriebell82 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 If he only has 2 friends, he probalby just got it. I wouldn't make a huge deal about this, maybe just mention that you were searching myspace and saw that he had a profile and that you would like add him as a friend if that's okay. If he said he is "in a relationship" that is a real good sign. It may even be one of those things where he rarely goes on and it's just one of those things that he never mentioned because he rarely uses it. I wouldn't worry about it too much, it doesn't sound like he hid his profile from you because he was trying pick up random girls on myspace!
hotpinklove85 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Ok.....I was in the same situation except my boyfriend has like 30 friends and had had it for like 5 months. He added me and I made a comment about something he left on some girls page and he deleted me from him friends. Is this a big deal?
KinAZ Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Ok.....I was in the same situation except my boyfriend has like 30 friends and had had it for like 5 months. He added me and I made a comment about something he left on some girls page and he deleted me from him friends. Is this a big deal? To me? Yes, that would be a huge deal. But it really does depend on what you said on his page... and the comment he left for the girl. If he said something out of line, check him in person not on his profile, unless you're done with him. But without knowing the comment he left, and what you had to say about it, it's really hard for me to say much more than that.
KinAZ Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I would probably think "aaaw, that's so cute. Look at his little myspace." If it's not a big deal to him, there's no reason to expect that he would mention. I would more than likely assume that he just created it because someone asked him to, or just to keep in touch. But if he had an account with 40 friends, then I might ask about it. Tom and his brother aren't even worth mentioning lol.
hotpinklove85 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 KiNaz.... There is this really hot girl that leaves him sexy comments all the time, and he had been talking to her via myspace for a couple months and they even planned on MEETING up on one of his days off and not telling me about it. Well I posted a few new pictures and it happened to be the same day SHE posted new pictures and he got on myspace one morning before work (5:00am) and left her a comment in spanish (because he thinks I cant read spanish) saying "your new pictures are so beautiful, I dont know when my next day off will be but I will write you back soon" so I messaged him and was like "WOW you were on myspace pretty early thing morning huh? I guess my new pictures werent as pretty as hers:( " Well he got mad and deleted me and made his profile private so I couldnt read it.....myspace is gay anyway.
KinAZ Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 KiNaz.... There is this really hot girl that leaves him sexy comments all the time, and he had been talking to her via myspace for a couple months and they even planned on MEETING up on one of his days off and not telling me about it. Well I posted a few new pictures and it happened to be the same day SHE posted new pictures and he got on myspace one morning before work (5:00am) and left her a comment in spanish (because he thinks I cant read spanish) saying "your new pictures are so beautiful, I dont know when my next day off will be but I will write you back soon" so I messaged him and was like "WOW you were on myspace pretty early thing morning huh? I guess my new pictures werent as pretty as hers:( " Well he got mad and deleted me and made his profile private so I couldnt read it.....myspace is gay anyway. Tell him to kick rocks, with a swiftness! My ex-husband chased after me for awhile after we divorced... even when he was in relationships. We're friends, and chat on-line but I keep my distance. He JUST did something like that recently, made a comment on a girl's picture, in English, but didn't know that his girlfriend and everyone else could see it (this wasn't MySpace, though). I sent him a message like "wow! your lady isn't going to beat you?" I never asked him what kind of trouble he got in for that one, but I'm sure that he tried to smooth talk his way out of it. Because I know he's tried to meet up with me and everything else while with this same girl, I know the inside scope that he's not just a harmless flirt. And I can pretty much assume it's fact that the female "friend" he had after we got married was not as innocent as he tried to make it out to be. Especially the fact that your guy didn't even try to cover for with an "I'm sorry baby. blah blah blah" says that you need to give him the boot asap.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 KiNaz.... There is this really hot girl that leaves him sexy comments all the time, and he had been talking to her via myspace for a couple months and they even planned on MEETING up on one of his days off and not telling me about it. Well I posted a few new pictures and it happened to be the same day SHE posted new pictures and he got on myspace one morning before work (5:00am) and left her a comment in spanish (because he thinks I cant read spanish) saying "your new pictures are so beautiful, I dont know when my next day off will be but I will write you back soon" so I messaged him and was like "WOW you were on myspace pretty early thing morning huh? I guess my new pictures werent as pretty as hers:( " Well he got mad and deleted me and made his profile private so I couldnt read it.....myspace is gay anyway. I hope you're not still with him.
Jilly Bean Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 If he has such a sparse profile, then he created it so he could lurk and browse other people. Plenty of people do it.
endlesstrains Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I have a myspace related question that I thought I'd stick in this thread because it's not very important and doesn't deserve its own thread... So my BF's facebook and myspace still say "single" but I don't care that much because it's just the internet, and it's probably just an oversight on his part more than actually trying to appear single (he also has the wrong age on his myspace which I pointed out once and he seemed surprised, but he still hasn't gotten around to changing it, so I don't think he looks much at the stats.) He has a bunch of pictures of his friends mixed in with his own pictures in the photos section, and there are a few of me... there are probably more of me by myself or with people than there are of any one of his other friends. But there are none of me and my BF together even though we have taken a bunch of good pics of us together. Should this worry me at all? I feel a little bit like he is trying to hide our relationship... but maybe if he is that's ok, since we have only been going out about 4 months and maybe he doesn't want to post things like that until it has been longer? We both feel like the relationship is going great and will continue to last... but I do worry a little bit... especially since he broke up with his ex only 2 months before he started to date me. He says it's in the past and he is over it, but I know when we started to date, it was kind of an "accident" and he wasn't looking for anyone... but he's said he doesn't feel that way anymore and is glad we are together. I am thinking I might ask him if it's okay if I put one of those pics on MY myspace-- who knows, he might be avoiding it because he thinks I want him to, and asking him will also help me gauge the reaction. But I don't want to put him on the spot or pressure him. I don't really care if we have them up or not, I am just wondering if not having them up is a sign of a problem, like he is trying to avoid people coming to his page realizing I am his GF (all his friends in real life know but he has a lot of casual acquaintances on myspace who don't. It's not like a bunch of chicks are always posting on his page though.)
xpaperxcutx Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I have a myspace related question that I thought I'd stick in this thread because it's not very important and doesn't deserve its own thread... So my BF's facebook and myspace still say "single" but I don't care that much because it's just the internet, and it's probably just an oversight on his part more than actually trying to appear single (he also has the wrong age on his myspace which I pointed out once and he seemed surprised, but he still hasn't gotten around to changing it, so I don't think he looks much at the stats.) He has a bunch of pictures of his friends mixed in with his own pictures in the photos section, and there are a few of me... there are probably more of me by myself or with people than there are of any one of his other friends. But there are none of me and my BF together even though we have taken a bunch of good pics of us together. Should this worry me at all? I feel a little bit like he is trying to hide our relationship... but maybe if he is that's ok, since we have only been going out about 4 months and maybe he doesn't want to post things like that until it has been longer? We both feel like the relationship is going great and will continue to last... but I do worry a little bit... especially since he broke up with his ex only 2 months before he started to date me. He says it's in the past and he is over it, but I know when we started to date, it was kind of an "accident" and he wasn't looking for anyone... but he's said he doesn't feel that way anymore and is glad we are together. I am thinking I might ask him if it's okay if I put one of those pics on MY myspace-- who knows, he might be avoiding it because he thinks I want him to, and asking him will also help me gauge the reaction. But I don't want to put him on the spot or pressure him. I don't really care if we have them up or not, I am just wondering if not having them up is a sign of a problem, like he is trying to avoid people coming to his page realizing I am his GF (all his friends in real life know but he has a lot of casual acquaintances on myspace who don't. It's not like a bunch of chicks are always posting on his page though.) 2 months kind of make you a rebound doesn't it? Anyways there are alot of suspicions. He's either telling the truth or lying about it. If the both of you are official, there's no way he wouldn't want to change his profile. Does he go on it all the time? Then he's bound to know the relationship status on his profile.
endlesstrains Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 2 months kind of make you a rebound doesn't it? Anyways there are alot of suspicions. He's either telling the truth or lying about it. If the both of you are official, there's no way he wouldn't want to change his profile. Does he go on it all the time? Then he's bound to know the relationship status on his profile. Well, I never asked him about it so he can't be telling the truth OR lying... Anyway I don't think the length of time automatically makes you a rebound in and of itself... and he wasn't looking for a relationship at all, he just fell into one (as did I.) He has said to me before that he feels like he broke up with her a much longer time ago because the relationship was "over" for a while before he officially ended it. Anyway, that's really not the issue here... He goes on his myspace a lot but not to update his profile settings... those haven't been changed since I met him. He just checks his messages and sometimes adds new photos. I don't think he even looks at his actual page because it took him weeks to notice that there was an error that was making it display weird. I never have asked him about his single status because it's just not that big of a deal. If I did ask him I would expect him to either change it or have a very good reason not to.
Ariadne Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 just thought it was odd he never mentioned the myspace to me. ah well. Yes, I find it odd too.
KinAZ Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I have a myspace related question that I thought I'd stick in this thread because it's not very important and doesn't deserve its own thread... I can empathize with you in that I like things to be very black and white myself. We're either together and OK with that or not. I'm not trying to tell you that there's reason to suspect this guy of being anything other than enthusiastic about your relationship, but rather that I might feel the same way you do if I were in your shoes. If he's on there enough to update pictures, he's on there enough to update the status. I'm probably like you in that I wouldn't want to make a big deal out of something so small, but do feel that you're right in that the status should change. I feel that if the relationship is still too new for a guy to want to make certain changes and declarations, then it's still too new for us to slap a title on it. My feelings in that situation would be "Just let me know when you're ready." I'd probably try to find the most clear and non-emotional way to tell him to update his status.
Author trubella Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 Remember to make him tell you if he farts ok? lol Thanks everyone for the input, i havent mentioned it to him yet, he's going out of the country tomorrow for a month, has other things hes worried about at the moment. but i will eventually..
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