Vetgirl88 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Hi. This is my first post, but I've been a lurker for a few months but now I'm totally confused and need some outside opinions. I met this guy in school who I wasn't interested in at first. We became close friends to the point where we were talking on the phone and texting each other every day. It was always him calling me and pursuing me because I was trying very hard not to be interested in him. We went on like that for a few months, basically just being each other's really good friend while everyone around us telling us that we were more than just friends. We always made each other laugh and had good conversations with lots of witty banter back and forth. Then one night we ended up kissing. He seemed so excited when we finally kissed. He texted several times the very next day and when he was out with his friends later that night. We continued dating for a few weeks, and everything was fine. He continued to call and we continued talking on the phone for hours on end. Then he suddenly got very distant. The distancing happened for about a week before he told me that he liked me but he didn't know what he wanted and he wanted to go back to being just friends. Maybe something might happen later, but for right now he wanted to be just friends because he didn't want to hurt me. The day after this happened, he texts me. It took me a while to respond to his text because I was hurt. Then, one text I didn't respond to at all. The next day he called and mentioned that I didn't respond to his text. I told him that I had gone to sleep, no big deal. Then I quickly but politely and very friendly got off the phone because I was didn't want a long conversation with him. Then, this weekend we were out with a few friends having some drinks. We were walking back from a bar to a friend's house when he decides to try and trip me. This is something that we frequently used to do with each other before we dated. A friend commented on it but he didn't seem to mind and continued his antics for the two block walk. I left the party before him, and when i got home, he texted me (it was about 3:30am at this point). We went back and forth for a few texts and then he says I had fun hanging out tonight. I replied that i was happy he had fun. Needless to say, now I'm totally confused and perhaps reading into things too much. Any opinions on what this guy is thinking or wants from me?
Keridan Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Wow! That's a tough one. It's hard to give any decent advice. It sounds like he likes you a lot but got scared for some reason. Has he been in many relationships? I dated this girl a long time ago that was incredible and she and I had pretty much the same situation. I was totally infatuated with her, but she tried to keep me at arm's length. After a while we ended up getting together. Shortly after, I got scared out of my wits. I was caring too much about her when I had promised to take it slow for her. I got infatuated and felt like an idiot around her because I seemed to have no grace when I wanted to impress her. So I backed off. I regretted that for a long time! I kept trying to keep the door open to fix my mistake, but never had the courage to take the necessary steps after that. Reading your post, I wonder if she could have written the same one around that time. It worked out well, I'm happily married now, but I wish I hadn't been such a dork with her. If you are into him and want to give him a shot at taking back his idiocy, then flirt with him and see where it goes. Maybe he is asking to go back at it but slowly. If you are too hurt or don't want anything but friendship, that would be understandable, but I would recommend a break from hanging out until you can get your feelings together. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you!
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