Lucky555 Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 So I was wondering if the guy is still living with his parents what does this say about him? at the age of 22 i am still in college but living from home to save money. If a 26 year old guy is living at home after college and a job, what does this say about him? Is this a red flag? He claims it was to save money and always states hes moving out or trying to buy a place. However, that was many months ago. Any take to this matter? I find that its okay for me to live at home due to me being in school and not being in my career field yet. I am also moving away next year so i will technically be not living at home. After reading many things about dating it says that men shouldn't be living at home at that age.
D-Lish Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 A close male friend of mine just bought a house and moved out of his parents house at the age of 30. Some factors involved: He was saving money while starting his own business, and he is very Italian... So his brother and sister both lived at home until they got married. He bought a house with his gf. He is a great guy and a good catch... hard working and loyal. I guess it depends on the guy and the circumstances. It could indicate laziness... but it doesn't necessarily mean so. My brother also lived at home until 29 when he bought a house and moved out. My mother encouraged him to move out finally- he was a little bit lazy... Has your guy recently finished school and started working? Maybe he really does want to save money before deciding to make a move on his own.
Author Lucky555 Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 he has been living at home for probably 5 years! I am not seeing this guy but I was curious of how abnormal it is for some men to still live at home. I really think he can afford a place of his own but still thinks its fine to live with his parents. Or even rent a place for this matter. I just wanted peoples opinions. Hes not saving for anything either except a place which he used to talk about 1.5 yrs ago! see its odd
Suiyobi Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 It's possible there are reasons he's not telling you as to why he's still living with his parents.
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 So I was wondering if the guy is still living with his parents what does this say about him? at the age of 22 i am still in college but living from home to save money. If a 26 year old guy is living at home after college and a job, what does this say about him? Is this a red flag? He claims it was to save money and always states hes moving out or trying to buy a place. However, that was many months ago. Any take to this matter? I find that its okay for me to live at home due to me being in school and not being in my career field yet. I am also moving away next year so i will technically be not living at home. After reading many things about dating it says that men shouldn't be living at home at that age. There's only a problem when that person wants to stay and they got the money and place to move out. That's when it becomes a problem. I live in my mother's house but we all do and each pay the upkeep for the mortgage. I'm moving out when I got some money, not every man likes to live with his family! lol.
Lizzie60 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Hum... when I see a guy in his late 20s and up still living with his parents.. it tells me he is somekind of a loser... The guy I'm dating right now is 36... still living with his parents.. I don't know if this is a 'culture' thing.. he is East Indian... I think he could afford a place of his own.. but I think he's too 'spoiled' with his parents... he just got a bigger, expensive car.. so I guess he rather spends on his toys.. than a house or an apart. I date him.. but he's definitely not 'long-term' material... I would never financially support a man.
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Hum... when I see a guy in his late 20s and up still living with his parents.. it tells me he is somekind of a loser... The guy I'm dating right now is 36... still living with his parents.. I don't know if this is a 'culture' thing.. he is East Indian... I think he could afford a place of his own.. but I think he's too 'spoiled' with his parents... he just got a bigger, expensive car.. so I guess he rather spends on his toys.. than a house or an apart. I date him.. but he's definitely not 'long-term' material... I would never financially support a man. So your dating a loser by your own admission? Trust me if he just got a new car he probably dont want to leave because he has it financially easier being at home then he does by himself. it's not rocket science.
Lizzie60 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 So your dating a loser by your own admission? Trust me if he just got a new car he probably dont want to leave because he has it financially easier being at home then he does by himself. it's not rocket science. That's exactly what I said..
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Well look at it this way, he just got a brand new whip, and your calling him a looser? Alot of families are different there are those that want kids to leave the nest, and you have alot who'se families expand in the same house while moving on. I think it's a problem when your a dude that has the money to leave and still doesnt want to, and relys on other to pamper and still take care of you.
Lizzie60 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Like I said it could be a culture thing.... but in my culture, men have to fly on their own at one point.. and not always count of mommy and daddy. I think this guy is spoiled... I don't really care if he lives with mom and dad... as long as he's not living with me.. ... I like him cause he's sweet.. and he worship me now... (we dated a few years ago)... he is extremely good looking and he knows it.. it,s kind of a 'trophy guy'...
45Reverse Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 So I was wondering if the guy is still living with his parents what does this say about him? at the age of 22 i am still in college but living from home to save money. If a 26 year old guy is living at home after college and a job, what does this say about him? Is this a red flag? He claims it was to save money and always states hes moving out or trying to buy a place. However, that was many months ago. Any take to this matter? I find that its okay for me to live at home due to me being in school and not being in my career field yet. I am also moving away next year so i will technically be not living at home. After reading many things about dating it says that men shouldn't be living at home at that age. I was out on my own at 18...I don't think I have a single friend that stayed with his parents past the age of 21. If you like him go ahead and have some fun with him, but I wouldn't consider him too seriously if I were you.
monkey00 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I think for some, there might be a reasonable excuse for living at home. I moved out after college at 23, I admit though living in NYC is not cheap but if I really wanted to save money badly perhaps for a condo or startup business moving back would be worth considering. So I think everyone has a reason for living at home past a certain age...and some might just be lazy/spoiled that they don't see a need to. So I don't necessarily see this as black and white, there are ups and downs to both. And it's very possible to be an independent person and do your own thing while at home (just not under the roof).
Author Lucky555 Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 hey all yeah this guy is a big loser actually because he did the same thing Hum... when I see a guy in his late 20s and up still living with his parents.. it tells me he is somekind of a loser... The guy I'm dating right now is 36... still living with his parents.. I don't know if this is a 'culture' thing.. he is East Indian... I think he could afford a place of his own.. but I think he's too 'spoiled' with his parents... he just got a bigger, expensive car.. so I guess he rather spends on his toys.. than a house or an apart." Yup this guy did the same thing...instead of moving out he did this and i think hes a loser too. If the guy was buying a vehicle out of needing one because his old one was bad then yeah fine...but buying out of his means and not getting his own place means hes a much and living off his parents. He thinks he can get more girls with his car hahaha right....except he lives with his parents!
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 hey all yeah this guy is a big loser actually because he did the same thing Hum... when I see a guy in his late 20s and up still living with his parents.. it tells me he is somekind of a loser... The guy I'm dating right now is 36... still living with his parents.. I don't know if this is a 'culture' thing.. he is East Indian... I think he could afford a place of his own.. but I think he's too 'spoiled' with his parents... he just got a bigger, expensive car.. so I guess he rather spends on his toys.. than a house or an apart." Yup this guy did the same thing...instead of moving out he did this and i think hes a loser too. If the guy was buying a vehicle out of needing one because his old one was bad then yeah fine...but buying out of his means and not getting his own place means hes a much and living off his parents. He thinks he can get more girls with his car hahaha right....except he lives with his parents! lOL. i depends on what kinda car he buys, if he has enough for honda civic. then fine. but if he's dropping like 40 G's on escalade??? WTF?
Author Lucky555 Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 well he dropped money on basically did that actually same brand. This guy clearly has payments up the ying yang and what woman is going to want that unless shes desperate...he might as well live in it see if that works hahaha
CandyGirlXO Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Oh people are funny! My EX 23 lives alone BUT his parents paid his way... He was in college. Me? Put MYSELF through college paid rent worked full-time. NOW at 25 I'm back at home. I owe a lot in student loans and living at home helps me, but I am independent. My parents have NEVER paid any of my bills in fact I have paid THEIRS! So no not a big deal. My EX is spoiled I am NOT! And who is living "on their own" technically my ex but I am responsible he is not.
Replicant Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 lOL. i depends on what kinda car he buys, if he has enough for honda civic. then fine. but if he's dropping like 40 G's on escalade??? WTF? Maybe buying the civic would have been the deal breaker in the relationship!? Not the fact he was 36 and living at home.
lovestruck818 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 So I was wondering if the guy is still living with his parents what does this say about him? at the age of 22 i am still in college but living from home to save money. If a 26 year old guy is living at home after college and a job, what does this say about him? Is this a red flag? He claims it was to save money and always states hes moving out or trying to buy a place. However, that was many months ago. Any take to this matter? I find that its okay for me to live at home due to me being in school and not being in my career field yet. I am also moving away next year so i will technically be not living at home. After reading many things about dating it says that men shouldn't be living at home at that age. It really depends on how expensive the area you live in is. It is virtually impossible for most 26 year olds to afford to move out in places like Long Island & New York City. Cost of living here is just way too high. It is the norm that most people here live at home. My boyf is a 26 year old lawyer and he still does. Nothign wrong with it in the slightest.
Author Lucky555 Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 yeah the cost here to get a place is manageable and with his salary he could afford to but i think cuz he bought the car he cant afford to now but still thinks he can get chicks I kept hearing the line buying a house for 2 yrs! I was like what the heck and he just sits there and pretends to do something but he doesn't. I really think he likes living with his parents..they make his meals they seriously do...they clean which he has stated before that he does not clean. hahaha. He bought his own car but come on give me a break! If he was living in a high cost area understandable..he could have just bought a civic and he could have moved out but he didnt hahahaha
endlesstrains Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I am dating a guy currently who lives with his family (parents and adult sister). I posted a thread about it when I first started dating him. I was wary at first but I am more comfortable with it now, especially because he is making genuine strides towards moving out. His situation is basically that he was really broke and depressed a couple years after college, so he moved back home to get back on his feet... which turned into several years. But during most of those years he was working a night job and had a totally different schedule from his family. Only in the last year and a half has he started working days again. His financial situation has continued to be rocky because of low pay at his job (it is a job he is very passionate about but it does not pay well). He has also had recent car troubles which pushed back his impending move. Now he is in line for a new position with higher pay and he will be moving out of his family home if he gets it-- he will need to live closer for the job, and the extra money will allow him to. Some people say that a man living at home after 20 or 21 is a big red flag. I think it's maybe more of a yellow flag... in my case I overlooked it because I know my BF is good for me and a great person in a hundred other ways, and it doesn't matter that much where he lives. But if living at home is just the tip of the iceberg in terms of personal problems-- THAT is a red flag...
RedneckRomeo Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I'm 26 and still live with parents. Want to know why? 1) I get along with them still. 2) They encourage me to stick around. 3) Convenient 4) Cheap 5) Nothing has ever given me a reason to move out I have a decent job, and am by no means a loser - It just works out both financially and logically, and though I have plans to eventually move out - I put a lot of blood and sweat into this place - rebuilding from a fire and now remodeling the basement - that I'm reluctant to move anytime soon.
Author Lucky555 Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 well obviously i think if the guy wants a girlfriend to pursue the FUTURE with he needs to be on his own. There are circumstances where the guy HAS to be at home. But if hes living at home just to support his LUXURY car and telling the girl hes going to be moving and said this for 2 yrs i think this makes a huge difference which is the term Loser. Hey if you still live at home due to it being good and find a lady that is ok with that then there you go. However, i think if i a guy can make it on his own then he should by all means get his own place so his woman and him can have privacy. What do the ladies think do you want your man living with his parents if he can move out? Do you want to go over his place and hang out, hey mom and dad man cook dinner hahahaha Sorry if this offends anyone but i just want honest opinions by women now tell me what u think?
xpaperxcutx Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 well obviously i think if the guy wants a girlfriend to pursue the FUTURE with he needs to be on his own. There are circumstances where the guy HAS to be at home. But if hes living at home just to support his LUXURY car and telling the girl hes going to be moving and said this for 2 yrs i think this makes a huge difference which is the term Loser. Hey if you still live at home due to it being good and find a lady that is ok with that then there you go. However, i think if i a guy can make it on his own then he should by all means get his own place so his woman and him can have privacy. What do the ladies think do you want your man living with his parents if he can move out? Do you want to go over his place and hang out, hey mom and dad man cook dinner hahahaha Sorry if this offends anyone but i just want honest opinions by women now tell me what u think? Speaking of guys still living at home at the age of 20, I find that a big no-no. Unless he's going to college and can't afford a place right now. I used to date someone who was still dependent on his mom. He didn't really do anything, apparently because he was depressed or something. But he still manage to find time to stay home all day and play video games. Of course I was naive, but I was glad I got out of the relationship after 3 weeks. Basically it really depends on the situation. I'll overlook the staying home thing, as long as they're financially stable, and is still helping out at home, but at the same time saving to move out. But if they're just home because they got nowhere else to go, and basically depends on the parents to still do their laundry, then there's no way I'm dating them.
AriaIncognito Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Personally, I see no reason you'd have to move out of the nest before age 30, but beyond that, i'd say you should be established enough to be able to afford to be on your own. I moved out at age 23, but moved back in for about 9 months when i was 26 in order to save some money, and then I moved back out at age 27 when I bought my place. I didn't want to rent, so that was the most logical answer for me, and worked out fine. I paid my parents a small amount for rent, and got out of there when I could. I dated a guy a few years ago that was 35 and lived with his family. If it was for a good reason, it would have been one thing, but he was just too lazy to do anything for himself, so well, that relationship didn't go very far. I'd not worry about a 20 something at home, esp if he lives in an area like mine where you need to make 75K to afford a cheap 1 BR.
Prodigal Princess Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 It's more expensive than ever before to rent or buy property wherever you are, but that didn't stop most of us from going out there and making it on our own. The maturity I gained from supporting myself through school is incomparable. I once dated a guy who was 25 and still living at home - came across oh-so-suave but in the end was a total mamma's boy who couldn't even boil an egg.
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