ioncebelieved Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 There are literally millions of women looking for guys like us. Guys willing to commit. It's like finding a $100 bill on the sidewalk. We are a rare breed, and that's what makes us such a sought after commodity.. more than what the likes of our ex-girlfriends deserve. Our exes don't meet up to our standards, not the other way around. That is da straight truth!!!!!!!! Come to think of it, I have never found that much money on the street!!! Nonetheless, it is their loss and you know what??? Me thinking that helps me feel better each day and I also know that my girl's husband can have that problem and he can deal with her lies, she had her cake and ate it too for the longest. Gentlemen, WE ARE THE PRIZE!!! Believe that!!!
CandyGirlXO Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 kizik I'm serious. I've wanted to PM you before but I don't have that feature yet. I agree ALL of you guys on LS are hard to find and ANY girl would be lucky to have any of you.
northstar1 Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 kizik I'm serious. I've wanted to PM you before but I don't have that feature yet. I agree ALL of you guys on LS are hard to find and ANY girl would be lucky to have any of you. Awwww, that's nice to hear
ate_the_paint Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Wow Candy you know how to talk to guys! chris is right, though. I was very comfortable in my relationship. Never once in six years did I stray. She went away for three months straight and I stayed loyal. I accidentally strayed into a Korean brothel (drunk...thought it was a bar) and once I realized where I was I got the hell out! So our R hit a rough patch. What, no butterflies? Well, I LIKED grocery shopping with her, and I LIKED budgetting our bills, and I LIKED the routines that had followed the initial "lalalalala" stage. And when we did do nice things, it was even better than during the honeymoon phase. Taking my sweety out to dinner and a fancy hotel after five years was better than after a couple of months! We could lean on each other, because we knew each other so damn well. And when things got bumpy, as all relationships will, rather than put the energy in to help fix it, she drifted away to someone else who would give her butterflies, and then bolted on me. Commitment is not only about staying faithful; it's about putting in the work. You commit to the relationship. And now the thought of going through years of getting to know someone all over again does seem daunting. I'm not even at that point yet where I can think about it. I don't want the butterflies and the floating on clouds. I want a trusted and valuable partner who has my back through thick and thin...and who I sleep with!
LikeCharlotte Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Relationships take work. The new relationship is all joy and bliss, and no headache, but if you've been around at all, you'll know that this is only a temporary phase. Real solid lasting love doesn't have butterflies. It has a mortgage, and daycare, and cable bill, and housecleaning... all the wonderfully dull things in life.... but taking that journey with another person and knowing each others strengths and weaknesses.. you can build that temple. I still have a shred of hope.Once again I'm with you motive, maybe we are a rare breed.
LikeCharlotte Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Commitment is not only about staying faithful; it's about putting in the work. You commit to the relationship. I don't want the butterflies and the floating on clouds. I want a trusted and valuable partner who has my back through thick and thin...and who I sleep with! Took the words right out of my mouth...
dead-dyke Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Piss on it. I'm a guy, and i'm thinking of joining a covenant. Naaw - the monk hood. Less chicks to distrust.
sailing Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I think we should be even more realistic. How about a little reflection: is it realistic to expect my partner to make me feel adored or to always keep things fresh and exciting? Should I not work a little on my unrealistic expectations instead? Material things are disposable, people close to us are not - is that such a difficult distinction to make? My ex-BF, when he left, basically said he was bored and the R was unexciting and he longed for the excitement of a first date. Well, I don't. I rather like not having to explain who I am to a different person every couple of months / years. I feel this way too. How many times can you lie in bed and tell the same anecdotes from your childhood before that becomes tedious repetition? Conversely, one of things I miss most about my ex is our in-jokes and how they kept getting better
Lishy Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Relationships have a sell by date! You just have to try to get one with a long date on it! No 2 people are meant to be together forever!
Author orangehose Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 There are literally millions of women looking for guys like us. Guys willing to commit. It's like finding a $100 bill on the sidewalk. I have to say, seeing all you nice guys here suffering alongside us women is what has prevented me from turning completely anti-male.
Author orangehose Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 I think we should be even more realistic. How about a little reflection: is it realistic to expect my partner to make me feel adored or to always keep things fresh and exciting? Should I not work a little on my unrealistic expectations instead? Material things are disposable, people close to us are not - is that such a difficult distinction to make? Yes, EXACTLY. And yet people have such unrealistic expectations when it comes to romantic love, whereas they DON'T towards their friendships and relationships with family members. I blame Disney movies.
iwish Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 My ex used to say, that you shouldn't have to work too hard on a relationship and that you never compromise.. That's bull right?
LikeCharlotte Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 My ex used to say, that you shouldn't have to work too hard on a relationship and that you never compromise.. That's bull right?people who think like that will not ever reap the rewards of "doing the work". Commitment isn't about saying you are going to stay with someone it is actually doing it. Staying together when things aren't roses between you is what gives you the tools to handle the really tough things in life together. I'm being redundant here. Sorry. Yeah its bull.
iwish Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Thanks LC.. I personally think that you do have to work on a R. I mean no two people can be identical in their wants/needs. You need to compromise and work. I just hate it when people just give up, say it's too hard and then move onto the next guy. As if it will be any different with him.
ioncebelieved Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Relationships have a sell by date! You just have to try to get one with a long date on it! No 2 people are meant to be together forever! The man in me believes this....but the human in me says it is all what you make it. I mean, this time around everyday I would want to do something out of my heart for this idiot. I didn't do it because I wanted her to love me more. It was done because I thought that much of her and loved seeing her smile. That made me happy. My mother died of cancer at 45, when I was 25 and she told me that women like the small things and small things mattered. For me, I thought that I had found the women that my mother had spoken of to me. At least, for once It didn't bother me to pull all the stops out. I may be a hopeless romantic, but there are some relation****s that do have a sell by date true...I'd just like to hope not every single one.
sunshinegirl Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 My ex used to say, that you shouldn't have to work too hard on a relationship and that you never compromise.. That's bull right? I think the nature of the work you have to do makes all the difference. If you're giving up pieces of yourself, your values, or your morals to be with someone, that's the bad kind of compromise and a sign the relationship isn't the right one. And if one person in the relationship is doing all the compromising, that's bad too. But if you're making changes in how you communicate, where you throw your dirty socks, or how often you see the in-laws, that's the good or at least necessary kind of compromise.
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