ibisflight Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 Could someone please list out all the "rules" to dating.....create a master list of dating rules. I've been reading all the posts: .....girls dont call guys.... but it's ok to call guys after you've had sex....guys don't call for three days... you dont kiss until here.....Sex waits until.... and if you are a nice guy you fail........ If you don't make a move you get put into "friend" place, from which no man has ever escaped. Jimmyjeezus! It's a wonder ANYONE ever EVER connects....
Trialbyfire Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 I don't believe in dating rules. My perspective is that both parties be themselves. If they're going to have chemistry, it will happen. Having said that, jumping in with both feet without getting to know each other better, is an exercise in disaster. If you think about it, how much can you honestly care about someone if you don't allow yourselves the chance to get to know each other.
sid3 Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 Yep, I agree with that. The only real rule is there are no rules. Everyone approaches dating differently, what one finds flattering or mysterious, another may find offensive and needy. I say approach it knowing that there is always a risk when you allow yourself to be vunerable and allow the other person the chance to get to know you. Going by any list of rules would be foolish. I read somewhere that the women who wrote "the Rules" are now divorced, that's Karma at it's finest!
v33 Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 I think it depends on the people involved. If you have just met someone and they are on the fence about weather they are into you or not I think you have to err on the side of caution and approach things slowly and show some restraint. However if a girl is totally into you and is showing you through her actions and being verbal about it you can dive in a little more quickly. Depends on the dynamic between the two of you. I tend to take my partner's actions and words and use that as a guide, but I usually to stay a LITTLE more guarded at first.
imbewildered Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 I read somewhere that the women who wrote "the Rules" are now divorced, that's Karma at it's finest! Yeh, that's also natural justice, "western" style. To the OP... the most "success" that you will have with women will flow easily if you do NOT try to have success with women. Firstly you need to have your life under control.. Having "women" in your life is NOt what life is all about. Dating is pleasant ( mostly ) and a great way to spend your leisure hours BUT chasing women is NOT good thinking... or productive behavior. Your mission is to build a successful life FOR you. Good job, good strong recreations, get fit and stay that way, quit smoking and drinking. acquire some solid friends...and so on.. IF a great woman comes along to COMPLEMENT your life - then that is a bonus. A woman should be an ADDITION to your life NOt the reason for it.
I am who I am Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 1st RULE: You do not talk about FIGHT CLUB. 2nd RULE: You DO NOT talk about FIGHT CLUB. 3rd RULE: If someone says "stop" or goes limp, taps out the fight is over. 4th RULE: Only two people to a fight. 5th RULE: One fight at a time. 6th RULE: No shirts, no shoes. 7th RULE: Fights will go on as long as they have to. 8th RULE: If this is your first night at FIGHT CLUB, you HAVE to fight. You can apply the same rules to relationships :-p
KinAZ Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I tend to take my partner's actions and words and use that as a guide. ^I think that's the only rule. For me, the main problem I tend to have is guys not taking the hint, or billboard, if I'm not interested. Sometimes I've even said "I don't like you in that way" and they couldn't RESPECT my feelings, and ended up making me uncomfortable and mean. Aside from that, I'm always a little leery of a guy who tries to get into my pants a little too quickly. But no, I don't think there are any rules about when to kiss or call, beyond paying attention, and asking for clarity when in doubt. And, of course, as a courtesy, giving clarity when needed or requested.
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