Loss 4 words Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 Leaving is never easy for me....never. I form such deep bonds with people it's always only heartbreak trying to let go and turn away from them, does it ever get easier ?? Whether it's my ex girlfriend or friends (that are more than just that )that i'm close to, I always get that sinking heart feeling when I know that I have to end it and am never quite right after doing so....and have a hard time doing so to begin with.... They always seem to be on my mind afterwords and i know that they are only a phone call away to see them again...but i know that if i was to see them it'd just bring back all those overwhelming emotions that I don't want to face...bacause i know that things couldn't be what I want to be and that even our friendship couldn't the same again...but deep down i miss them so much it hurts my heart and soul that there is a void i know i can't fill with anything except alcohol and drugs, but the numbness only lasts for a bit and then i must face it all over again. Is there an easy answer to it ??
sparktonSS Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Yes, I get the same exact thing. I dont know what it means...I even get that feeling when just talking to people sometimes and all of a sudden I dont talk to them anymore. With love/companionship, your brain makes the specific glands in your body produce more of the chemicals that they produce; adrenaline, dopamine, seratonin, oxytocin, vasopressin. These chemicals are rampant in your blood stream and you get used to these feelings. Seratonin is the double edged sword, beacuse when you are with the person that makes your glands release more seratonin, you feel awesome but when that person is gone, you hurt like a mofo. Blame it all on the seratonin. You just need to make yourself strong enough to fight these things, and get over it quickly. For me, when talking about gf's, this is really hard for me to do, as long as there is not a good justifiable reason we are apart. On the other hand, if she were to have sex with another dude or another 30 dudes, then I become like superman and I can reject her all the way to Pluto. Very interesting how the body and mind works.
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