The Bachelorette....maybe it is true that women do go for the guys who don't spill

[Calisto]

their heart.

Diahana (or however you spell it) ended up dumping Graham, but she said he was the one that she really fell for hard. She dumped him because she said she couldn't be with a guy who wouldn't let her know how he felt...but she did say she fell for him hard and was crying.

 

The other guys were very open with their emotions.

 

At least she had a good enough head on her shoulders to see that he wasn't emotionally available and let him go despite her strong feelings for him.

 

I do realize it is just a TV show though.

[OpenBook]

Well, good for her!! I don't watch the show, but I'm glad to hear she nipped that sh*t right in the bud. Life is too short to try to drag somethin' like that outta somebody else. Too much work!!

[whichwayisup]

I do realize it is just a TV show though.

 

Don't worry about. I was very into Ryan and Trista.. Haven't watched much of the others.

[Suiyobi]

Wait, I'm confused. So it's better for a guy to never be open about his feelings to a girl he likes?

[Calisto]

Wait, I'm confused. So it's better for a guy to never be open about his feelings to a girl he likes?

 

It was posted before to not be a "nice guy" and give too much too soon. However, she let him go, but he did have the strongest hold on her.

[zicke]

She still let him go though, knowing that he was not an open person. I would have too. (Knowing what I know now about EU men)...she ultimately made the right choice for her.

[sfsassy]

I was surprised but happy she made that choice. (I mean not overwhelmly happy. It is still a bad reality tv sho, lol) She truly seemed to like him, but he seemed a bit of a creep. I think it was mainly physical cheistry.

[norajane]

The guy's mother said he has never had a relationship that has lasted longer than 4 weeks...and he's in his late 20's. DeAnna had already made a fool of herself chasing after him and trying to get him to show her an ounce of affection. She finally dumped his emotionally unavailable withholding ass.

 

The only question is why he even went on the show, knowing that the whole point was to find a long lasting, committed relationship leading to marriage.

 

ETA - DeAnna has a bunch of issues herself, starting with an unending need for constant validation. Clingy and needy would be the words I'd use to describe her. And haranguing harpy.

[Fun2BMe]

The guy's mother said he has never had a relationship that has lasted longer than 4 weeks...and he's in his late 20's. DeAnna had already made a fool of herself chasing after him and trying to get him to show her an ounce of affection. She finally dumped his emotionally unavailable withholding ass.

 

He had told her himself before that, on their date at the beach that his longest relationship to date was 3 weeks which made her pursue him even harder to the point he made it to the last top 4 remaining.

 

The only question is why he even went on the show, knowing that the whole point was to find a long lasting, committed relationship leading to marriage.

 

Considering he is a professional basketball player for a well known team on the NBA, I think unless he was really looking for a relationship which he has failed to have his whole life, he wouldn't be risking getting dumped nationally and being ridiculed by his peers, unless he was serious about finding love. I would guess that ABC does a hardcore intensive interviewing process to weed out all the fakes. He was totally heartbroken when she didn't give him the rose and gave her a long love letter expressing his thoughts, which he didn't have the skills to tell her in person. Not everyone is slick and polished (and fake) like Jason, who made it to the final 2 but obviously DeAnna saw right through him!

[Star Gazer]

Not true at all. She was way into Graham NOT because he wouldn't open up, but because he was "smokin' hot" (as she repeated about 150 times throughout the season) and her "exact physical type" (which she also repeated over and over again). It was BECAUSE he wouldn't open up that she let him go.