kizik Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 After some great advice from friends and v33, here is what I propose: Be here now. Be in your moment. Enjoy what you're doing - right now. Fullt immerse yourself in it. When thoughts of your ex creep in, when memories flood your mind - Be here now. Right now. The present is all you have. Everything else is just worry and regret. I've never meditiated before, but I know that being in the moment is part of it. When thoughts of the past and future invade your mind - Be here now, and completely enjoy the sun that's shining, the music that's on, the conversation you're having - Right now.
v33 Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 Yes! I was talking to my roommate last night and she was feeling down (pretty common for her).... why this, why that, she kept asking. Life is so bad.... Constantly dwelling on the bad things in your life, means you are dwelling on the past, right? Unless you are currently in physical pain or experiencing a horrible car crash before your eyes, if you are currently unhappy about something then chances are it is caused by a memory or thought of something that HAS HAPPENED, not something you are experiencing at the moment. I pointed out to her that she has to start living for the now and planning for the future. I asked her how she felt right now. She said she was sad and miserable and alone. I told her I was highly offended. Why? She asked. Well, I told her, we are sitting outside on a warm summer night, the breeze blowing, two friends talking and having a glass of wine. And this makes you sad and miserable? I don't think she quite got it, but I am sure most of you get what I was trying to tell her. She was experiencing a perfectly great moment but couldn't see it because she just couldn't let the past (weather it was her day, or last week or the last couple of years go). How can you ever enjoy anything if you don't stop and live in it?
carhill Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 Some of us see the future Seriously, great advice. This was a lesson I learned while caring for my mother. Each day was a new opportunity and a new time for joy. Sure, some pain might intrude, but it was transitory. Living in the moment really changed my psychology and outlook on an otherwise bad situation. I think that perspective is what is helping me right now. I hope others can benefit from your experience.....
northstar1 Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 After some great advice from friends and v33, here is what I propose: Be here now. Be in your moment. Enjoy what you're doing - right now. Fullt immerse yourself in it. When thoughts of your ex creep in, when memories flood your mind - Be here now. Right now. The present is all you have. Everything else is just worry and regret. I've never meditiated before, but I know that being in the moment is part of it. When thoughts of the past and future invade your mind - Be here now, and completely enjoy the sun that's shining, the music that's on, the conversation you're having - Right now. Well put sir.
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