Author Impossible Posted July 31, 2008 Author Posted July 31, 2008 I don't know what to do. I want to tell her my feelings, one side of me says for me to tell her my feelings and the other side says don't tell her. I need advice, should I tell her or no??
WiseOne1 Posted July 31, 2008 Posted July 31, 2008 I don't know what to do. I want to tell her my feelings, one side of me says for me to tell her my feelings and the other side says don't tell her. I need advice, should I tell her or no?? Telling her how you feel could help, or it could do the opposite and push her away. If you havent done that so far, I would say yes. She needs to know.
Author Impossible Posted July 31, 2008 Author Posted July 31, 2008 But the thing is, she has a boyfriend. Should I still tell her?
Katherineos123 Posted July 31, 2008 Posted July 31, 2008 I dont think you should say anything to her. People in general are very intuitive, so I would go with the assumption that she most likely knows how you feel. It could be something as subtle as the way you look at her, etc, but I think its safe to say that this girl already knows how you feel. She has a new boyfriend. Whether or not this new relationship is genuine or serious is yet to be determined, its my opinion that this sounds like a rebound situation to me. However, it is what it is. Shes involved with someone else, and I dont think it would be fair to either of you to revisit these emotions. She is very young, and most likely is having a hard enough time dealing as it is. Plus, dropping this bomb on the girl might not only result in further heartbreak on your part, as well as bring you back to square one in terms of your recovery, but it could potentially ruin ANY sort of "normal" relationship, romantic or otherwise, between you and her. Things tend to get very messy when that line is crossed, and if you want this girl to be in your life in the future. I dont recommend saying anything now. Who knows where you'll both be a little while from now. Time will tell, but the best way to "win" her back is by befriending her again, friendship with ulterior motives. As hard as that may be for a while. How long have you two been split up for?
Author Impossible Posted July 31, 2008 Author Posted July 31, 2008 I dont think you should say anything to her. People in general are very intuitive, so I would go with the assumption that she most likely knows how you feel. It could be something as subtle as the way you look at her, etc, but I think its safe to say that this girl already knows how you feel. She has a new boyfriend. Whether or not this new relationship is genuine or serious is yet to be determined, its my opinion that this sounds like a rebound situation to me. However, it is what it is. Shes involved with someone else, and I dont think it would be fair to either of you to revisit these emotions. She is very young, and most likely is having a hard enough time dealing as it is. Plus, dropping this bomb on the girl might not only result in further heartbreak on your part, as well as bring you back to square one in terms of your recovery, but it could potentially ruin ANY sort of "normal" relationship, romantic or otherwise, between you and her. Things tend to get very messy when that line is crossed, and if you want this girl to be in your life in the future. I dont recommend saying anything now. Who knows where you'll both be a little while from now. Time will tell, but the best way to "win" her back is by befriending her again, friendship with ulterior motives. As hard as that may be for a while. How long have you two been split up for? We've been split up for about 6 months. Maybe your right it isn't good on my part to tell her how I feel. I think she does know.
WiseOne1 Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 We've been split up for about 6 months. Maybe your right it isn't good on my part to tell her how I feel. I think she does know. I agree, your right, I dont think you need to tell her, because she knows how you feel, she cant help but know how you feel, regardless of if you say it or not. And we dont want to push her farther away or make things any harder.
Author Impossible Posted August 1, 2008 Author Posted August 1, 2008 Should I even talk to her? I texted her on Monday and she never responded and I haven't said anything since to her.
WiseOne1 Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 Should I even talk to her? I texted her on Monday and she never responded and I haven't said anything since to her. At this point of the breakup it would best to talk to her, but you need to have a plan along with it, are you gonna go in empty handed?
Author Impossible Posted August 1, 2008 Author Posted August 1, 2008 At this point of the breakup it would best to talk to her, but you need to have a plan along with it, are you gonna go in empty handed? I don't understand. What kind of plan??
Author Impossible Posted August 2, 2008 Author Posted August 2, 2008 Is there something specific that I should talk to her about???
WiseOne1 Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 I don't understand. What kind of plan?? Well you just cant call, for the normal "hey whats up", unlest you wanna be friends, whats your purpose for calling? You need to call with the attentions of talking about you and her, and if you to are possible.
Author Impossible Posted August 2, 2008 Author Posted August 2, 2008 Well you just cant call, for the normal "hey whats up", unlest you wanna be friends, whats your purpose for calling? You need to call with the attentions of talking about you and her, and if you to are possible. Ok understandable
Author Impossible Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 I'm going to call her tonight and if she doesn't pick up i'm going to leave a voice mail and say "Hey "X" it's "Y" I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person." The reason why i'm going to say that is so that she will wonder what I am being appreciative for and will want to know. And If she does call back i'm going to tell her everything.
WiseOne1 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 I'm going to call her tonight and if she doesn't pick up i'm going to leave a voice mail and say "Hey "X" it's "Y" I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person." The reason why i'm going to say that is so that she will wonder what I am being appreciative for and will want to know. And If she does call back i'm going to tell her everything. Well my ex told me thats he wanted me back, and that she thinks we should get back together. I used a couple of techniques from a E Book, I guess it all depends on how you come at her.
Author Impossible Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 Well my ex told me thats he wanted me back, and that she thinks we should get back together. I used a couple of techniques from a E Book, I guess it all depends on how you come at her. She called you and said she wanted you back??
WiseOne1 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 She called you and said she wanted you back?? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=160400 ^^ read the thread.
Author Impossible Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=160400 ^^ read the thread. I've been reading many things online also about break ups and how to act. It really works. The post with what I was going to say when I called her if she didn't pick up was from a website I was checking out on how to get your ex back. And they say to get them to call you back say that you appreciate what they did. And it should get them to wonder what they did and hopefully the ex would call back. But if she does pick up I learned so many things to say like how you are ok with the break up and everything. So you and your ex are back together??
Author Impossible Posted August 5, 2008 Author Posted August 5, 2008 I talked to her and told her I agree that we broke up its better for us. I told her that her and her bf are ment to be. And i apologized for not treating her the way she should have been treated and i thanked her for how she treated me. and I told her i loved her care for her and miss her but doesnt mean i didnt move on i did. I go out with my friends and have good times. and I do talk about you sometimes to my friends. and i said i know you and your bf are good for eachother i think you two will get married i know it sounds weird. this is how I feel about you. She told me she knows that I love her and she said she feels bad that she hurt me.. I told her I'm not sad anymore that was a long time ago. im happy now im not sad anymore. I cant be sad because whenever I think about you im happy not sad because i never had sad moments when i was with you only good memories. and she sent me a smiley face. and then said thats sweet. she told me that her and I are on good terms and she said thats good. but her bf doesnt like her talking to me which is understandable. So i told her that I said all of this now because im going to keep my distance from her and stop tallking to her so her bf doesnt get mad. So now I have to just wait.
Narf Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 :/ I have read all this and i feel bad for you... Why did you call and lie to her?? You are not happy she is in a relationship with another guy... and yes you might have good memories but dont they haunt you cause you want her back?? You didnt move on all you did was start to let go... Im not sure what you are waiting for?? This is just my opinion but you need to stop talking to her telling her how you feel and lying... It isnt doing anything to help you... This is about her not you.. She is the one that is confused, she is the one that has a b/f, she is the one that can make the decision to take you back... By you telling her you love her miss her doesnt change anything...She needs to be the one missing you!! She need to have the feeling that make her rethink her decision... Telling her you are happy that she is with someone else and that they are great together is just confusing!! I know you are trying to be the nice guy and make her think "Oh he really really loves me" but if it were me i would be thinking "what the?! He loves me but he thinks the other guy is better for me then he is... Im confused" You need to leave her alone... You need to really move on... not just start to let go... If you see her you see her... If she messages you can message back but dont give up feelings.. There is no point.. Everytime you have nothing changes... She still isnt with you... and not only is she not with you but she is with another guy!
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