Egoolps Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 I'll admit it. I have a fantasy of being able to do dirty things to my girlfriend's backside (mouth, fingers, member). How do I introduce it? Sure, we've been dating a long time...but I don't want to freak her out. I've long told her that I love her butt. I've mentioned a couple of times (indirectly) that I would lick "any" part of her body, etc. Any advice?
carhill Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 Sure, but don't know if it's appropriate for this particular forum... If she enjoys doggie style, but is a little nervous or apprehensive about anal touching, make sure she's pretty aroused, like having her use a vibrator on her clitoris while you enter her from behind and then take a well-trimmed finger with a little lube on it and push on her sphincter to match your thrusting. Gauge her response. I'm pretty uninhibited and enjoy round the world, rim jobs and all that stuff and far prefer a woman's backside to most men's area of interest, her breasts. Hope that helps!
KinAZ Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 You might want to see how she feels about that sort of stuff before you surprise her with anything. And also, seeing how comfortable or uncomfortable she is when you touch her in that area should also tip you off. But, as was said above, make sure she's fully aroused first. LOL... I don't like being so graphic, but... the way I was sort of suckered into trying that was while my ex was going down on me, and fingering me at the same time, he just went for it. Because I was so into what he was already doing, he had already started with the other thing before I realized what was happening. I suggested that to a friend some years ago, and it actually worked for him. But, of course, everyone is different, and you might want to see what she thinks about that sort of stuff in general before you go for it, especially if you've been together for so long and it's never come up. If you love one another, you should be able to talk to one another honestly about your wants and so forth.
sfsassy Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 I'll admit it. I have a fantasy of being able to do dirty things to my girlfriend's backside (mouth, fingers, member). How do I introduce it? Sure, we've been dating a long time...but I don't want to freak her out. I've long told her that I love her butt. I've mentioned a couple of times (indirectly) that I would lick "any" part of her body, etc. Any advice? I never thought I would like that. Not due to dirtiness, but other things. My ex was really into it though so I tried. What he would do is put his fingers in my vagina, while he put his "member" in the backside. It was the best sex I ever had. Very, very intense.
Keridan Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 These folks have it right. You have to gauge. It can honestly be harder to talk about it then to try. You just have to be willing to take subtle hints to stop. In my experience, it's best to try during oral while you are using a finger already in front. Try to make sure that finger is lubed and you are gentle. You do NOT want to hurt her the first time you try anything. The worst she will do is ask you to stop either verbally or with her actions. I have never known a woman to get freaked out to where they were disgusted or thougt less of the person they were with. Even if she does stop you, maybe after everything is done, it will open the door to conversation.
carhill Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 Oh, yeah, forgot the oral part....works great to "nose" her during 69
AAlike Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 I'll admit it. I have a fantasy of being able to do dirty things to my girlfriend's backside (mouth, fingers, member). How do I introduce it? Sure, we've been dating a long time...but I don't want to freak her out. I've long told her that I love her butt. I've mentioned a couple of times (indirectly) that I would lick "any" part of her body, etc. Any advice? haha it's funny, I just went through this same sort of thing with my current girl. My only other serious GF was a little skinnier than I would have liked and was lacking in that department - this girl has a much curvier butt that I am all about. I'm not so much into the hole as I am the cheeks - however, I thought just like you that it might be a little weird to just go to town on 'em. luckily, she kinda helped me out by one day complaining on the phone to me, as all women are apt to do, that her butt was too big. I told her that I completely disagreed - she thought that i was just trying to make her feel good, to which I seized the opportunity and told her to wear a thong that night and I'd prove it to her. so that evening I focused quite a bit on that area...I still wasn't sure if she thought that it was weird or not until two nights later when she basically told me that she wore another thong specifically for that purpose...since then it's become integrated into our typical foreplay routine. can't say I mind.
nicki Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 AA, sounds like that worked for you! I think a good way to introduce the subject is to simply start talking to your girlfriend about what she does that makes you hot. She'll probably return the favor. So, talk, share, bond. Then ask her if there is anything she would like you to do for her, or ask her to tell you one of her fantasies. Mention your particular fantasy. See how she responds. If it's "Oh, no way I would do that," then smile, say you understand, and tell her another one of your fantasies. Maybe one you are pretty sure she'd go for. Even if she says no to the backdoor idea, you've planted a seed in her mind. She will remember and may change her mind down the road. Sometimes a woman simply needs time to think about something like that. It definitely needs to be her decision. I would be very careful about just "going there" during foreplay or intercourse. If you do, please watch her signals very carefully. If you touch her in that general area (not right on), see what she does. If she scoots away from your hand or seems to freeze, then back off. If she arches toward your hand or groans loudly, then take it up a notch and check in again with her reaction. She must be relaxed in order for the muscles in that area to relax. Alcohol helps greatly with relaxation and general craziness. My boyfriend knows when I drink a bit too much, I'm up for that kind of stuff.
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