iwish Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 To some that's nothing, to me it's equalled my record!! I'm proud of me, i did it. I managed a whole week without texting, emailing or calling.. Absolutely nothing She hasn't contacted me either .. but i expected that. How do i feel? I feel the urge still!! But i get stronger in the afternoon. I still have her scarf, i still have an excuse to contact her. I actually want to contact her so desperately to suggest a walk along the thames tonight after work as we used to do (it's a lovely sunny day). damn i miss her still.. I still have the hope you see , i still hope that she will miss me a bit. She will realise that i've given up on her and then come running back or at least contact me to see how i'm doing. We had fun, she admitted that we had fun. But...
sailing Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 Congratulations, iwish, well done! (BTW, I still think you should post the scarf and delete her off Facebook - too much temptation to let yourself down)
sultry33 Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 hi iwish, you are doing great:) im on day .3.. except for one drunk text on day 1:eek: i have the urge too and yeah its a great day in the uk.. london may even venture out in my back garden tomo.. been 3 months;) my ex is not on my facebook anymore.. he took himself off and im so glad he did.. id stalk .. check he is ok.. but if he is not bothering about me then sod him. i have about 4 pairs of shorts.. 6 t shirts. books.. dvds.. total crap of his.. thinking of boxing it up sending it on.. buying a bright pink satin duvet set.. just because i can:D we will get there:love:
v33 Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 Congrats! I have a week under my belt now too. Seems like longer though, and in a very good way! I am actually getting to the point where I am concerned that she might call me.
sultry33 Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 thats great v3 i dont think my ex will call me.. he is too damn busy and strong. im telling myself that he wont then im not disapointed.. waiting.. how you going to handle it if she does call? nc completly/?
v33 Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 If I see her number I will not answer, and if she leaves a voicemail I won't respond. To be honest I would delete it after the first word. Hey it's what she did with me, and how I wish I would have handled it. Really though, I needn't worry, she will never call. And it is very good that way.
LikeCharlotte Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 To some that's nothing, to me it's equalled my record!! I'm proud of me, i did it. I managed a whole week without texting, emailing or calling.. Absolutely nothing She hasn't contacted me either .. but i expected that. How do i feel? I feel the urge still!! But i get stronger in the afternoon. I still have her scarf, i still have an excuse to contact her. I actually want to contact her so desperately to suggest a walk along the thames tonight after work as we used to do (it's a lovely sunny day). damn i miss her still.. I still have the hope you see , i still hope that she will miss me a bit. She will realise that i've given up on her and then come running back or at least contact me to see how i'm doing. We had fun, she admitted that we had fun. But...Light the scarf on fire.
serendip Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 To some that's nothing, to me it's equalled my record!! I'm proud of me, i did it. I managed a whole week without texting, emailing or calling.. Absolutely nothing She hasn't contacted me either .. but i expected that. How do i feel? I feel the urge still!! But i get stronger in the afternoon. I still have her scarf, i still have an excuse to contact her. I actually want to contact her so desperately to suggest a walk along the thames tonight after work as we used to do (it's a lovely sunny day). damn i miss her still.. I still have the hope you see , i still hope that she will miss me a bit. She will realise that i've given up on her and then come running back or at least contact me to see how i'm doing. We had fun, she admitted that we had fun. But... Congrads on one week Now try to go for another week and if you can't....get one of your buddys to come over and kick you in the nuts...it's probably be less painful then her reply or her ignoring you.
Author iwish Posted June 24, 2008 Author Posted June 24, 2008 Congrads on one week Now try to go for another week and if you can't....get one of your buddys to come over and kick you in the nuts...it's probably be less painful then her reply or her ignoring you. Fantastic!
critter909 Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 6 days for me! I have the urge too but am hanging in there. Congrats!
Author iwish Posted June 24, 2008 Author Posted June 24, 2008 6 days for me! I have the urge too but am hanging in there. Congrats! Well done on 6 days. I'm one ahead !! I was so tempted to contact her today.. So so tempted.. But i didn't. I never let the urge get the better of me and i think you can do so too. One day at a time
ioncebelieved Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 Longest I ever went was 3 weeks...but I would settle for a week right now!!! Congrats on the week!! NC seems to be harder this time around for me because it does some like this is final.
Author iwish Posted June 24, 2008 Author Posted June 24, 2008 Longest I ever went was 3 weeks...but I would settle for a week right now!!! Congrats on the week!! NC seems to be harder this time around for me because it does some like this is final. 3 weeks?!! who broke the NC? How long now? Hang in there!!
ioncebelieved Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 3 weeks?!! who broke the NC? How long now? Hang in there!! I did because I was having surgery one time and she broke it by IM another time we went 3 weeks. This time she seems to be holding a lot stronger than I am. I guess that is what is bothering me because in the past she would do silly things to let me know she was thinking about me. Last week she asked me to cut my webcam for her. Like an idiot I was trying to see her (LDR) and she pretty much said please don't. NC would be great for me if I continued doing it!!
serendip Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 Fantastic! You know what....I think you should put a horse's head in her bed while she is sleeping. It'll be your version of a hallmark moment...to let her know you still care.
Author iwish Posted June 24, 2008 Author Posted June 24, 2008 I would put a horses head in there with her if only to upset her (possible) new boyfriend.. Nah, i wish her all the luck in the world, i want her to be happy but i don't want her to be with someone else, selfish aren't i!
Author iwish Posted June 24, 2008 Author Posted June 24, 2008 I did because I was having surgery one time and she broke it by IM another time we went 3 weeks. This time she seems to be holding a lot stronger than I am. I guess that is what is bothering me because in the past she would do silly things to let me know she was thinking about me. Last week she asked me to cut my webcam for her. Like an idiot I was trying to see her (LDR) and she pretty much said please don't. NC would be great for me if I continued doing it!! I wish my one would break the contact, just once. It would make me smile .. She's too used to me doing it. She is stronger than me and obviously cares less about 'us' than i do. To me she was a sweet angel, to her i'm just a pain in the backside.. Ouch, that hurt to type!
ioncebelieved Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 I wish my one would break the contact, just once. It would make me smile .. She's too used to me doing it. She is stronger than me and obviously cares less about 'us' than i do. To me she was a sweet angel, to her i'm just a pain in the backside.. Ouch, that hurt to type! I completely understand what you are saying.. I think that is why it is worse right now for me because she is holding strong. In return makes me think she does not care about me at all. I so hate being like this!! I used to be a strong, confident, outgoing man. Now I feel like a whiny bitch. I guess it makes me silly to pray for happiness and to have that loving feeling/ attraction I had for her again, huh????
Author iwish Posted June 24, 2008 Author Posted June 24, 2008 Ha, yes we are all whiny bitch's on here and that sucks! But in time, we wont be. We'll be back to ourselves again. Meeting new people and finding happiness with or without them. It's not silly to miss someone in my opinion or to have i hope. I still have hope that she will miss me and will contact me. I mean the good times must have been two sided!
northstar1 Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 Ha, yes we are all whiny bitch's on here and that sucks! But in time, we wont be. We'll be back to ourselves again. Meeting new people and finding happiness with or without them. It's not silly to miss someone in my opinion or to have i hope. I still have hope that she will miss me and will contact me. I mean the good times must have been two sided! I'm on one week as well, and it's damn near killing me. But I know that even sending anything at all will set me back - because then I'll be just waiting for her to reply and build up hope of what that reply will be, and ultimately it will disappoint.
kizik Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 I still have hope that she will miss me and will contact me. I mean the good times must have been two sided! Be very careful, hope will keep you from moving on through acceptance that it is over.
Author iwish Posted June 24, 2008 Author Posted June 24, 2008 Yes Northstar i totally agree. I so wanted to contact her but what's the point of getting shot down again and then starting all over. The best way is to get through the urge and keep strong. Congrats on your one week!! Kizik, i know that hope will drag me down. But i hope my hope will fade slowly so that i just wont care anymore.
Peter_pan Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 i wouldnt count on her missing you or ever contacting you again. ive already learnt that.
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