Tessa4837930 Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 I have tried to write this question a few different ways and can't seem to phrase it delicately so I'll just ask. Does a husband still respect his wife if she gives into him about sex all the time? My husband is older and is a "Type A" personality so he has often taken the lead in our relationship. I really don't mind and in fact, I usually appreciate it. I pretty much agree to where, when and however he wants it. It never even occurs to me to disagree because I love what we do. Now my friends are telling me I am being too easy for him and he won't respect me and will take me for granted. They think that I should make him jump through hoops and whatnot. I thought that the coolest thing about marriage was that we were done with those sorts of games but I am learning that married people am friends with play them too.
quankanne Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 a good rule of thumb is if you're happy with y'alls sex life – regardless of who initiates – then don't pay attention to what others tell you, because that's something between you and him. however, if the idea bothers you, simply talk to him and see what kind of adjustments you can make that work for the both of you. Often, there's going to be one person who takes the lead when it comes to sex in a relationship, and that's okay. frankly, though, I say don't mess with something that obviously works for the both of you just because an outsider doesn't agree with your sexual style – it's no one of his or her business! And playing games is never, ever a good idea, especially in a marriage because I think that's akin to being "false" with someone. And that causes problems that don't even have to be there.
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