Refrain Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 I was on a huge community gathering over a weekend: a progressive-hippies- type of a place where you get dancing, music, drinking, and sex. I am a girl in an open relationship and so I was on a small quest that weekend. I picked a guy I liked (in his late 30's) and tested the mutuality by leaving music gathering and going into the shade where I could see him but he could not see me right away. He was clearly searching for me. We made out on the grass, had sex in his camping tent, walked around (I did not hanged on him being myself and as usually social) where he insisted on holding my hand like a boy (very cute). We did not show things in public too much, but slept in my tent the next night. In the morning he asked me to drive back with him, but I did not want to abandon my brother so I refused. He tested grounds by asking why I picked him since I am "young and beautiful and he's rather old and hairy" and a few questions about my other lover. I did not go into a girlie mode and just smiled for most part and said that he's special. Back home he did not call so I invited him to our friends gathering saying that I will take him home afterwards. He replied that he was busy (and I know it was the case). After that there was no communication for a week. I texted him asking if he was ok and offering to meet. No luck. He did not pick up the next day. The day after my gf called and no answer again. And today I called from my office and he answered. He sounded busy with all the people in the background (he said someone is moving in), so I just asked if he was ok and said goodbye. So, can anyone explain wtf is going on? We've know each other for some time (rather knew of each other, have seen here and there). He was always pursuing me but I kept distant. I understand when men sweet talk during and right after sex, but here it seemed non-hormone related. The very time he got hold of my number he called. He was asking me to let him see me during my lunch hours at work. He offered to go see Doc so we can loose condoms (few hours after sex). And now he disappeared. I am a life coach, PUA teacher for men and thought I know men in and out. This one puzzles me since he did not show any Pick Up patterns. He was looking for validation from me and I gave him that (non-verbally though). Can anyone please logically speculate on what could be happening in a brain of a thirthysomething yearl old?
JackJack Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 Maybe you're more into this than he is? Is it possible he got what he was looking for and thats it, and he doesn't want anything more?
Author Refrain Posted June 23, 2008 Author Posted June 23, 2008 Maybe you're more into this than he is? Is it possible he got what he was looking for and thats it, and he doesn't want anything more? I totally would agree unless he did not chase me for a while after he got what he wanted. he was clear on continuing our "meetings" on a regular basis :-)
porter218 Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 Maybe after having time to think about it he decided a woman with another lover just isn't his cup of tea...I don't know many men who can deal with that.
Author Refrain Posted June 24, 2008 Author Posted June 24, 2008 He called back at 7:20pm. I was bouldering and did not pick up. He texted at 8pm saying that he's around and that too much happened in the last week. "sorry things are too crazy". How adorable :-) And then my hysterical gf called at midnight saying that he probably was checking his missed calls and dialed her number (she called him earlier in the week). So the dude was not lying or he's is a really good lier. In any case, let the drama continue. Life is spectacular!
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