Nevermind Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 Sunshinegirl: I got a nasty e-mail from his affair/girlfriend (albeit written at the end of may). I foolishly told him, because I thought he would feel for me, since he had been so vicious when I informed her of my existence. He answered that I deserved it and basically rewrote the history for himself. He painted me in such a vile manner, that I finally understood how it works: he needed to create this image of myself, this weird fantasy of his, where he is actually the victim and the good guy. He did not only have an affair, he lied, violated me, and insulted me etc...all of this would make any sane person question themselves. Not him. Because he twisted reality. Think about it: We all have morals, and we all like to think of ourselves as moral people. My ex, just as yours, always hated cheating. Yet, he did it. He hated liars, yet he lied. Etc. Rationally, it should be him who doubts himself. But he took the easy way out - he made himself the victim. It's a far stretch in his situation, but one way or other many people do it. Your ex? Was cheated on. Turned to be a cheater himself. Should he not feel bad? Question his own integrity? Yet, all you know is that he seems happy with the office hooch. I guess he is doing the same thing, more or less, as my ex. Twisting the story for himself to maintain his self-love. But by doing so he is refusing to learn from it. He also - and this is important - knows that he is a liar to himself. Those are heavy burdens, and they are blocking the way to happiness. You can learn from this. You will, and this will help you to be with someone who is better suited for you and who will appreciate the luminous girl you are. Someone without those burdens. P.S. I am not strong, but I finally woke up. Link to post Share on other sites
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