northstar1 Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 No, I didn't mean to be harsh northstar. It's just that Johan was in strict no contact for two years. He was being sarcastic about asking whether the 2 year no contact would work. You see now? awww, gotcha. im a bit slow
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 And I do want to add something. You can second guess yourself to the cows come home. I know I've done that myself. But what's the point? With the right person..the right person for you, there's no questioning. There's no agonizing. There's no walking on eggshells. With my ex I even stopped drinking completely. Did it make a difference? NO. I stopped arguing with him and went along with everything he wanted. Did that make a difference? NO. I was loving and affectionate and a good wife. And guess where that got me? The more I gave him what I thought he wanted, the worse he treated me. You can't twist yourself into a pretzel for someone else. They either love you the way you are or they don't. They accept you the way you are or they don't. Do I believe in compromise and giving your partner what they want? Yes. Within reason. Yes. And as long as they're willing to do the same. Was that the dynamic going on in that relationship?
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 awww, gotcha. im a bit slow No, it's ok. You just didn't know.
Ariadne Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 With my ex I even stopped drinking completely. Did it make a difference? NO. I stopped arguing with him and went along with everything he wanted. Did that make a difference? NO. Hey, btw. You are such a good poster. You are an asset to LS. Good going Touche!!!
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Hey, btw. You are such a good poster. You are an asset to LS. Good going Touche!!! You're such a pest, Ariadne! Guess what I'm listening to now? Yep. I might have to send this thing to Johan. Or I'll post it on here but I'm still listening. The jury is still out on whether it's really good or not. Whether it's sound. But so far, I'm liking it. Anyway, thanks so much dear! You're a doll to say what you did. LS would never, never be the same without you, you know.
Ariadne Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 You're such a pest, Ariadne! Guess what I'm listening to now? Yep. I might have to send this thing to Johan. Or I'll post it on here but I'm still listening. The jury is still out on whether it's really good or not. Whether it's sound. But so far, I'm liking it. Anyway, thanks so much dear! You're a doll to say what you did. LS would never, never be the same without you, you know. Well, that clip wouldn't work with him bc he thinks she loves him. And thanks.
Ariadne Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 I have to be honest about things I guess. I don't think I was ever going to find true closeness and happiness with her. Yes!!! I agree 100%
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Yes!!! I agree 100% See? NO. He doesn't think she loves him in the way she should. He knows. As to the sermon. Wow. I'm only half way through but it's good. I hope it's ok for me to post your link here Ariadne. I know many could benefit from it. I know at one time I could have. So I'm going to post it here and go listen to the rest now. http://www.theonlineword.com/mp3/5246.mp3 Please listen to it, Johan ok? And I don't think it even matters what religion you are or if you don't even believe in God at all. It's a good message.
Author johan Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 See? NO. He doesn't think she loves him in the way she should. He knows. Who are you talking about?
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Who are you talking about? Are you serious with that? YOU, silly! I was talking about you. Was I wrong to say that? Ok, back to the sermon. Wow, Ariadne. I love it so far. It gets better and better. I love this: He says (and what's the good pastor's name anyway?) "People will let you down. But some people won't just let you down, they'll keep you down." I really like that quote but I want to add that they can only keep you down if you let them. And maybe he goes on to say that but I haven't listened to the rest yet.
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Ok, finished listening. Pretty good, pretty good Ariadne. Let her GO, let her GO bruthah! Don't let her keep you down anymore! Rise up! Dust that dust off! And go forward bruthah! Yes! Amen.
sunshinegirl Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 "People will let you down. But some people won't just let you down, they'll keep you down." This is brilliant. Totally brilliant.
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Oh and let go of the shackles that bind you, bruthah Johan. Throw away all the colored flags and embrace your kitties. Make bread and pasta and rejoice. Yes. REJOICE in life's every day pleasures. Free yourself and you shall be set free. Amen.
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 This is brilliant. Totally brilliant. I know, isn't it? I was disappointed that he didn't go on to say specifically that they can only keep you down if you let them keep you down. But I guess the overall message made that clear.
Ariadne Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Wow, Ariadne. I love it so far. It gets better and better. He says (and what's the good pastor's name anyway?) "People will let you down. But some people won't just let you down, they'll keep you down." Yeah, it was pretty good and so funny. I loved the "misery-go-round" Btw, the one that sent me that link was BentSpine.
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Yeah, it was pretty good and so funny. I loved the "misery-go-round" Btw, the one that sent me that link was BentSpine. Yes, misery-go-round was great! We have all been on that fun ride, right? Who is Bent Spine. Rings a bell but I don't know...one of our sistahs and bruthahs I assume? Amen.
Ariadne Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Yes, misery-go-round was great! We have all been on that fun ride, right? Who is Bent Spine. Rings a bell but I don't know...one of our sistahs and bruthahs I assume? Amen. BentSpine to me is one of the wisest posters on this site. He doesn't post much though.
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 BentSpine to me is one of the wisest posters on this site. He doesn't post much though. Oh, ok. I'm not familiar with bruthah BS but I'll keep my eye out in the future. Amen, sistah.
Art_Critic Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Oh, ok. I'm not familiar with bruthah BS but I'll keep my eye out in the future. Amen, sistah. Hey Touche'.. what happened to this thread ?.. Wasn't it supposed to be about Johan and his ex ?... hahaha
Ariadne Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Oh, ok. I'm not familiar with bruthah BS but I'll keep my eye out in the future. Amen, sistah. Amen sistah. Let-them-go! I've got the gift of goodbye... Is the tenth spiritual gift. Is not that I'm hateful, is that I'm faithful. Amen.
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Hey Touche'.. what happened to this thread ?.. Wasn't it supposed to be about Johan and his ex ?... hahaha OH yeah! Sorry bruthah AC. You are so correct. But what more is there to say other than...let them go! Yes, let them go. I will bow my head in prayer and hope that henceforth I can keep on topic. Amen.
Art_Critic Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 OH yeah! Sorry bruthah AC. You are so correct. But what more is there to say other than...let them go! Yes, let them go. I will bow my head in prayer and hope that henceforth I can keep on topic. Amen. I was just busting your chops.. hahaha
Storyrider Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 It's hard to find someone who is so close to exactly right. It's so disappointing to know that the only flaws, the few, were fatal ones. It's a game the universe is playing with me. Over and over. I feel like dice. Welcome to the human race.
Touche Posted July 1, 2008 Posted July 1, 2008 Amen sistah. Let-them-go! I've got the gift of goodbye... Is the tenth spiritual gift. Is not that I'm hateful, is that I'm faithful. Amen. Yes, sistah! You're with me! Is so good! If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it, I know I can achieve it. Jesse Jackson
Author johan Posted July 1, 2008 Author Posted July 1, 2008 Welcome to the human race. Thanks. I thought I was already there. Why did I need this?
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