Calisto Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 So I joined eharmony 3 months ago. In that time I have gotten 80 matches, right? So I'm all, what the hey, I'll initiate communication with ALL of them. I wait a week, and a couple have initiated the questionnaire with me, a few have "closed" the match for various reasons (pursuing another relationship, I live too far away, "other")...fair enough, right? So I initiate the questionnaire with ALL the other matches and 2 of them reply. I even give nudges to a lot of them. I think a lot of them are no longer paying members and they are still being sent out as matches, I would surely get more returning. Oh and no "you must be fat/ugly" etc. because that is not true.
OpenBook Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 I have a couple of GF's who went a lot farther than that on eHarmony, and nothing ever panned out. The guys they dated had extreme issues (one had anger management problems, another was a wet rag/needy and clingy, still another was simply a jerk). Based on what I've heard, I'll never try it. I don't know one success story from it. And that sure is an awful lot of $$ to spend!!
Jilly Bean Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 I dunno. I had two friends who met their husbands off eharmony, and currently have one guy friend who is hot and heavy with a woman he met on there... Seems to work for some...
Author Calisto Posted June 23, 2008 Author Posted June 23, 2008 True, I guess you never know. It only takes one.
Walking away Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 I met my future husband on eHarmony. There is no way we would have ever met any other way. We live STATES away from each other and our paths would NEVER have crossed.
Jilly Bean Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 I met my future husband on eHarmony. There is no way we would have ever met any other way. We live STATES away from each other and our paths would NEVER have crossed. Is that you in the pic? I can see why he pursued you from states away. And I mean that in the most non-lesbionic way possible. I did eharmony once. I met an incredible guy. We truly were very well matched. Perhaps TOO well-matched, in fact. lol. Ended when he got transferred (was a pilot) and I didn't want a LDR. OLD, much like real-life dating, is purely a numbers game.
Walking away Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 Is that you in the pic? I can see why he pursued you from states away. And I mean that in the most non-lesbionic way possible. I did eharmony once. I met an incredible guy. We truly were very well matched. Perhaps TOO well-matched, in fact. lol. Ended when he got transferred (was a pilot) and I didn't want a LDR. OLD, much like real-life dating, is purely a numbers game. Yes, that's me. I think when you meet the RIGHT one, distance doesn't matter. For awhile, it doesn't, at least. My guy is actively interviewing out here so we can be together. And eHarmony is who matched us up....
AriaIncognito Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 Personally, I've had no luck with eharmony, or any of the online sites for dating. I tend to only win men over in person, not online. I paid for a year of eharmony so I still have it through October, but honestly dont even bother logging in anymore. I'm sure there are many it has worked for, but it's all a numbers game, like everything else.
porter218 Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 I couldn't tell you. Maybe you need to give it longer. My good friend married a man last winter that she had met on eharmony, and my cousin is marrying a man in 1 month she met the same way.
amymarieca Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 Try "Plenty of Fish". It is completely free. You may not be matched up like you are on eHarmony, but at least it doesn't cost sixty bucks a month! The website is http://www.pof.com
Author Calisto Posted June 23, 2008 Author Posted June 23, 2008 Thanks, I might do that. Although I bought the year subscription, too, for eharmony.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 Hahaha, I laughed when I saw this. I did e-harmony. I canot tell you how many people they sent to me who lived in either California or Hawaii and were Asian. Nothing against Asian men, but 50% ? That seems a little high for the population. There were very few from my city, or even the surrounding suburbs. I was like, is there REALLY no one in the DC area who matches my personality? That being said, I do know a girl who met her husband on eHarmony and they are very happy By the say, I hate that guy who does the eHarmony ads. And the couples are all disgustingly cute. Argh. And the music, oh I hate the music in the commercials as well.
Author Calisto Posted June 24, 2008 Author Posted June 24, 2008 Hey thanks for the link to pof. I just joined and am in contact with a professional man who is handsome (according to his photo) and seems really cool. On Eharmony I closed a guy out for no contact and he asked to be reopened so now we are on communication. He has all the stats- good looking, professional, etc. but he lives 2 states away. I might update my photo because it was taken when I was too thin over a year ago and my skin was paler due to it being the middle of winter and I wasn't getting out much due to a breakup. I put on 10 pounds since then (which I needed to do) and now look a lot healthier and better.
jimbo Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 I met this girl (see above post) on eHarmony. I got the 12 month "deal" too. The monthly fee is just too much not to go 12 month. Got some cash back too from the CC. Also on a few others. Date.com is the worst. Not one bite. The other three several different encounters. Just can't close the deal
Shygirl15 Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 eHarmony somehow didn't convince me; too many questionnaires, back and forth procedures, too expensive etc etc. Plus I just had a feeling that I may not find interesting guys of my type around my area, on EH. I found more success with Match.com and even better success with Yahoo Personals. I'm generally a very shy person, so for me this is my only option for dating. I never look at people on the face, and feel awkward smiling at someone I don't know. So, in real life, I'm not that inviting to guys..
Hotel Paradiso Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 eHarmony is a mess. Look, I went on it about two months ago to check it out, and I get shoveled 20-40 women a week towards me as "new matches" with a number of them seemingly eligible. So, then you go through the Q&A maze back and forth of questions, interests, etc, etc. Now, that would work and isolate a good woman for me IF I wasn't juggling over 100 other women in the thing. How the hell am I supposed to keep track of all of that data? I've got a good memory, but not a photographic memory, so that's where the problem lies in. As we bounce the messages over days and weeks back and forth between each other among hundreds of women (I think it's up to 210 now) it all becomes a big mess and nothing I can work with. Anyway, back to the OP - Make sure your photo is good. I'm not insulting you, but the vast majority of women that have introduced to themselves to me through that I didn't respond to I didn't find attractive in any one of their photos. Maybe it's just bad lighting or maybe it's something more dramatic you need (like a complete makeover and / or lots of time in the gym), but you have to have good photos to have ANY response on ANY dating service.
AAlike Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 I went on EHarmony a few months before I met my current GF just for the hell of it and after filling out the various questionnaires the site informed me that I was one of the 5% or so people with a personality type that they would be unable to match. It was kind of freaky, especially considering I was in a stage where I was wondering if I'd ever find somebody that would hold my interest. This almost reinforced that...not the best moment hahaha...
Refrain Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 I would say get out and play. The wine testings are great! Lots of men, good wine, cheerful atmosphere. Also meetup.com works good for meeting singles. Just find topics you are interested in and kill two birds with one stone. For real! They also have lots of singles meetups.
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