Phily Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 Okay... I've been dating this woman (24) for the past 5 weeks. Since this past Monday we've been exclusive. Whenever we're together we have an awesome time and are both very affectionate towards each other both in public and in private. During the past 7 years I've dated a ton but have never felt this amount of attraction and interest towards someone, probably ever for that matter... I've stayed overnight at her home once and she's stayed overnight at my place once... Both times we shared a bed but didn't have sex, lots of touching and kissing but haven't done the deed... I'm not used to this, with everyone else I've been with it has happened by the maximum of 2-3 weeks from the start of dating. I must admit however that I have a lot more respect for her than I probably would have if we had sex early on and I certainly trust her a lot more... She told me that she does want me but at the same time she also wants to take things slow because she really likes me... So, how am I supposed to react to this? I REALLY do like her and she does seem to have the same feelings towards me but I just don't want to get blindsided and find out that I was being played. Should I communicate my concern with her?
soulseeker Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 My current bf and I did not have sex until a bit after two months. I wanted him to know that I was not looking for some quick thing, AND I wanted him to be tested for everything possible. I knew he wanted to have sex much sooner, and so did I for that matter, but I saw the potential for a relationship right from the beginning. Now that I type this, two months isnt even that long... He did not push me AT ALL. If he had, I would have been waaaay turned off. BUT, He did ask me what I needed in order to be comfortable with us having sex. I told him that I wanted to be able to call him my bf before we did the deed, and for him to be tested! He thought that was fair, and let me know he respected me for it. So, I did sort of let him know I wasnt leading him on. Maybe ask her what she needs to be comfortable with you guys moving further along.
Author Phily Posted June 22, 2008 Author Posted June 22, 2008 My current bf and I did not have sex until a bit after two months. I wanted him to know that I was not looking for some quick thing, AND I wanted him to be tested for everything possible. I knew he wanted to have sex much sooner, and so did I for that matter, but I saw the potential for a relationship right from the beginning. Now that I type this, two months isnt even that long... He did not push me AT ALL. If he had, I would have been waaaay turned off. BUT, He did ask me what I needed in order to be comfortable with us having sex. I told him that I wanted to be able to call him my bf before we did the deed, and for him to be tested! He thought that was fair, and let me know he respected me for it. So, I did sort of let him know I wasnt leading him on. Maybe ask her what she needs to be comfortable with you guys moving further along. Thanks Soulseeker! I certainly haven't and don't plan on pushing her. I like the idea of asking her and perhaps having myself tested could ease her mind an my own for that matter.
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