katie82 Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 my friend is a doctor and her boyfriend is a software engineer. one of her friends told her the other day that its socially awkward to have the woman be of a more "prestigious profession" than the man. she thinks she should be with another doctor or a lawyer. i think thats total BS! he is really smart and holds a phd! since when was being an engineer not a great job? anyway my friend is really upset at all of this got into a big fight with my other friend. any advice on what to tell her to reassure her that this is stupid? or do you think the other friend had some merit in what she said?
sailing Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 Socially awkward?! What's wrong with these people? 1 vote for "total BS"!
Lucky555 Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 Well i don't think your friend believes that the software engineer is beneath her. I believe its mainly having things in common. Your friend that is the doctor is probably always talking about her patients, new therapies, ect. The boyfriend is probably talking about software ect. I believe she would like have someone she has something in common with. I myself have found that my personality is sparked when i find people who are in my same field or health related field because we have a lot common and its intellectually stimulating! I can see how she would be praising her boyfriend but at the same time be not into everything he talks about. I doubt this is a money issue. Its a common intellectual issue. However, if she finds the right guy i don't think there would be a problem and they would just click.
sailing Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 Well, just because they have different professions doesn't mean they can't be knowledgeable and interested in eachother's respective fields. Nor does it rule out them discussing their work with their peers. It goes without saying that there are other topics to talk about, other forms of communication, chemistry, shared values etc that are more relevant to the relationship.
Author katie82 Posted June 22, 2008 Author Posted June 22, 2008 i totally agree with all of you that its more about the fact that a couple gets along, are intellectually stimulated, etc.... but are there people in the world that think a female doctor with a male engineer is strange? an engineer is equally well paying and equally intellectual. its not like the guy is a garbage man (though with the right person i guess it could still work, but in that situation i could see it being much harder to click) i think some people see being a doctor as this highly noble profession that is unlike any other so maybe having the woman in that field doesnt quite make sense in their minds? uuugh!
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