jimmymat87 Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 Hope this isn't going to be to long and boring Ok.... My girlfriend and i had been dating for a bit over a year, im 20 and she is 19. We had our fights like all couples do but we would always sort things out. Anyway towards the end of last year we had an argument then on new years eve (a few days later) she decided she wanted to break up with me. So after talking and me making a fool of myself trying to convince her to work things out i let he walk out of my house. Anyway i went out that nite and so did she.. within about 3 hours of her leaving i get a call from her saying come to the party she is at and that she has made a mistake, i declined and said she made her choice we are done.. yet again about 11 i get another call i tell her to leave me alone. Then the next day i go to drop her stuff off and she cries and pleads and i stay strong and refuse to take her back... anyway more calls and msgs from her that nite.. then about 3 days later i decide to give her another chance.. we meet up and talk about where we think the problems lie and what is good etc etc. This is thursday... on the friday i go out with my friends and all is good.. i see her on saturday during the day all is good.. then on the sunday she starts another arguement i hang up on her she msgs appologizing and whatever. anyway to get to the point she breaks up with me again this is like a week after getting back together.. i am pissed off etc etc.. we get back together 2 days later... then she breaks up with me a week later... I go out the next weekend and sleep with some other chick... then about a week later i bump into my ex at the shops... she cries and begs me to take her back and i do (i know im an idiot). 2 days later she rings me and says her mum is not letting her see me anymore... im fed up with all this stuff by then so cant be bothered arguing.... anywayyyyyyy... then next week i find out she is seeing this new guy this really gutters me.. She calls me about 3 weeks later but i dont answer.. About 6 weeks after the last breakup she is at a party i am at... She says we need to talk she tells me she still loves me and misses me i blast her say some pretty mean things and she starts crying... I get up to leave to catch a taxi with my mate and she follows insisting we can work this out.. we are both drunk and i kiss her then go off to my taxi (mind you she has a new boyfriend at this stage). The next day she calls me we decide to go for a walk... we end up having sex and she breaks up with her boyfrined the next day.. we are back together AGAIN... things go well for 3 weeks except her mum has banned me from her house beacause i apparently upset her daughter to much.... Then she calls me up and says she can't do it anymore her mum is going through a divorce and apparently im putting to much stress on her. So we break up again.. she has been msging me saying she misses me and stuff and i just don't reply anymore trying to do the no contact thing.. Its been just over 2 months since the last break up and i havent bumped into her anywhere yet which is a good thing... I really loved this girl with all my heart and i still do... I don't want to get back with her anymore coz of all the stuff that has happened.. but i would give anything to go back to the way things were before the first break up... i know that is impossible however.. It just sucks it is destroying me she is all i think about most of the day and night... I really wish i could just stop thinking about her but we had so much fun together and we were really in love it just sucks to throw it all away... I want to just move on with my life.. My uni results this semester were the worst they have ever been i just cant concentrate she is always in my mind... She is not a bad chick but she is so easily led especially by her family.. her mum and sister were the ones that convinced her to break up with me she even told me this so theres nothing i can do.. I don't even know if there was a question in that post maybe it was just a rant who knows... Bottom line is i really really miss her, she was the love of my life and my best friend we got on amazing we talked about starting a family and life together in the future.. I know it is pathetic all the stupid break ups and reconciliations.. She is trouble and i dont trust her but it just sucks i can't get over her . Jim.
BillClam Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 Dude, you're not gonna wann hear this, but you're young! Way young! This sounds like a crazy relationship, break ups, sex inbetween the break ups (which aren't that long) a mom who hates you. Perhaps you guys need to be apart for awhile, and take some time to grow, perhaps you two need to find a way to grow together (hint: Not at parties) She could very well be an awesome chick, and if her family is making her decisions for her, that sucks, but again, that means she needs to grow a little as well. I've no idea though, if there's anyway you can help her with that aspect of life (don't come in between the family if you can help it)
df273 Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 I agree with Bill. I would take everything that reminds you of her, and stash it away somewhere. Pictures, gifts, all that. Give it space and time. I'm in week 4 of a breakup and getting rid of things that remind me of her has helped a bit. Wish you the best of luck.
Author jimmymat87 Posted June 23, 2008 Author Posted June 23, 2008 yer her family basically made her choose between me and them and of course she picked them... i just think with time they would of come around . Yes i got rid of everything that reminds me of her many months ago, i dont go on her myspace beacuse even seeing her picture makes me upset.. thanks for the advice
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