claycald Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 im sure most of you know my story. ive had damn near 500 views but if you dont know you can see the story of it all here. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t154864/ anyways... i have asked her a few weeks ago if we can see each other as friends she said "yeah i guess... my boyfriend might not like it though". then went on talking about she is going to belize for a couple weeks then when she gets back she will being traveling back and forward between here and Texas A&M (4hour drive) to get settled in and orientation and getting her schedule set so she doesnt know if she will ever have time. I believe her and know she isnt coming up with bullpoo to get out of it. im not scared of her or mad or have any hard feelings except that i am still in love with her. we have been speaking via email for almost 3 months now. one of my best friends speaks to and sees her ex and everything so im unsure if i should do the same. she says i should try to go hang out with her, my friend is real good with this sort of stuff since she is a lesbian and knows how girls think and stuff. i guess im asking for yalls opinion because im scared of being rejected or her starting to speak about her new boyfriend.
kizik Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 As odd as this may sound - if you're still in love with her, you should avoid her.
vivrantflo Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 i guess im asking for yalls opinion because im scared of being rejected or her starting to speak about her new boyfriend. I'll will guarantee, if you hang out with her, you will experience both of those situations.. without a doubt. What purpose would it serve to hang out with someone else's girlfriend??? You ask her to hang out and she says "yeah, I guess" And mentions her boyfriend?? Dude, if you want your heart ripped out, go for it... What I would recommend.... you are in love with her, and you can't have her. You have to go NC to preserve your feelings, and move on from her. You don't want to know what she's up to, you don't want to know whom she's with.. all that info is going to hurt you. She made the decision to leave you, so let her live with that choice! Find another girl to spend your time with, and get to know.. your ex doesn't deserve your attention..
wareagle Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 She's an ex for a reason, keep it that way there are many people out there who will be your friend! Let it go let her go no good will come of meeting with her!
Author claycald Posted June 22, 2008 Author Posted June 22, 2008 *sigh* i just dont know... i know what yall mean. to be honest with yall i have already met up with her. she had said she wanted to see me at her graduation and was going to send me an invitation and everything until i mentioned her parents may not like it. she agreed cuz they hate me. but i found her and went up to her anyway right in front of her parents and boyfriend. her face lit up so bright when she saw me and gave me a hug then ran off to find her friends to say one last good bye. then there was that other time i accidently ran into them at the fast food joint. i ran into her parents and they got mad and walked away. they didnt tell her i was there and when i finally told her about it she got upset that she didnt get to see me. i find it apparent she still cares about me very much so and she knows i still love her yet she still speaks to me. it bothers me she is with that f*ggot (no offense to anyone) but at the same time i dont really give a ****. if that makes any since.
sparktonSS Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 Yeah, she sent you an invitation so you can send her money. You need to take the irrelevant things that make you think she likes you (face lighting up when she sees you, getting mad that she didnt get to see you) because they are what they are...irrelevant. Also...RUN away from this woman. You are crazy if you want to meet up with her. Dont kid yourself...you know for a 100% fact that you cannot meet up with this woman as friends. You admit that you love her. Meeting her will only make you hurt more. Take the advice to heart and get rid of this biatch NOW.
Author claycald Posted June 23, 2008 Author Posted June 23, 2008 well... ive been thinking about it and came to a conclusion... i will ask her and if she says yes then good if she says no then good. in regards to what she said before this is the full statement "yeah i guess not graduation... my boyfriend might not like it either"... that is not a no. as dumb as this sounds why would she agree to see me knowing if her boyfriend found out he'd get pissed and probably leave her. i dont think it would be worth the risk. also if her boyfriend found out we were speaking again wouldnt he still get mad as hell? i mean, she is taking a pretty huge risk to even speak to me.i doubt he knows or he would have been on guard graduation night and woulda hit me or something when i hugged her right in front of him when he wasnt looking... so since she is taking the risk i shall take the risk too... sorry yall i am the most stubborn sonofabitch you will ever meet.
critter909 Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 What do you expect from this situation? If you are still in love with her you want her back right? Do you want her cheating on her new boyfriend to be with you? Do you want to share her with another guy? I think you should take the advice of everyone on here and go NC. She knows how to get a hold of you if she wants to, but that should be when and if she breaks up with the new guy
v33 Posted June 23, 2008 Posted June 23, 2008 One way to look at this is that basically you are wanting to hang out with or pursue some guy's girlfriend. What title or rights you had to her in the past are gone and you need to remember that. Look at the plain truth of it. She is with someone else. If she was a total stranger and involved with another guy would you still want to hang out with her?
Author claycald Posted June 23, 2008 Author Posted June 23, 2008 What do you expect from this situation? If you are still in love with her you want her back right? Do you want her cheating on her new boyfriend to be with you? Do you want to share her with another guy? I think you should take the advice of everyone on here and go NC. She knows how to get a hold of you if she wants to, but that should be when and if she breaks up with the new guy i dont expect anything out of meeting up with her. i dont expect her to be like well i was wrong i love you i am leaving him. yes i do want her back i would do anything to have her. and i could careless if she cheats on him to be with me. id take that as a... im not sure of the word... id be like wow she is actually cheating for me. i wont go NC with her because that is how we got in this situation before. my friend of almost two years knows my ex real well. they went to school together and had a class together. they didnt speak to much but she tells me i should go ahead and give it a shot. when the breakup happened my friend told me to just be patient and she will eventually speak to me again. and here we are speaking to each other again. im not trying to get her back or cause them to break up i just want to see her. yes it would be nice for us to get back together but im not seeking that right now. out of these 3 months of us speaking again i have not given her one reason to believe i am after her again. she knows i love her, we have talked about us, and she has spoke of him only once. she told me at first she wanted to speak on the phone but is now hesitant of it, at first she told me she wasnt ready to see me, now she has seen me and is ready for it. but i am not trying to be like leave that faggot for me girl.
underpants Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 yes i do want her back i would do anything to have her. and i could careless if she cheats on him to be with me. id take that as a... im not sure of the word... id be like wow she is actually cheating for me. Jeez, How can people be so stupid and weak? You will twist all logic to suit your immediate agenda.
wareagle Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 You my friend are headed down a road that just leads to more heartbreak! I know you love her, but she is with someone else now! Let her go, would you really want someone who would either cheat, or breakup with their current flame for you! What happens if you get back together? Won't you be afraid that she would do the same thing to you the next time someone else came along and paid attention to her? Listen to the people here they have nothing but your best interests at heart, otherwise your heart is gonna hurt for a long ass time!
Author claycald Posted June 24, 2008 Author Posted June 24, 2008 ive been through the worst pain already, ive had suicidal moments (not any since ive started talking to her again), i took prescription pain killers for no damn reason but to get the high off it, ive done the worst **** imaginable... there is nothing she can say or do to push me over the edge... this is something i have to do for me. i have spoke to my best friends about this and they agree i should see her. so i shall.... oh to make it clear, i have ALWAYS hated and dispised her boyfriend even before they got together. so hell yeah it would be bitter sweet if she left him for me. but again that is not my goal in this. my goal is just to see her and show her i respect and understand her decisions... thats why we broke up in the first place, cuz i wasnt being respectful of them.
sultry33 Posted June 24, 2008 Posted June 24, 2008 ive been through the worst pain already, ive had suicidal moments (not any since ive started talking to her again), i took prescription pain killers for no damn reason but to get the high off it, ive done the worst **** imaginable... there is nothing she can say or do to push me over the edge... this is something i have to do for me. i have spoke to my best friends about this and they agree i should see her. so i shall.... oh to make it clear, i have ALWAYS hated and dispised her boyfriend even before they got together. so hell yeah it would be bitter sweet if she left him for me. but again that is not my goal in this. my goal is just to see her and show her i respect and understand her decisions... thats why we broke up in the first place, cuz i wasnt being respectful of them. would be even sweeter if you decided not to meet.. espically as she has someone else.. cant you take some hotty then see if that helps.. sorry op i agree with others on here.. setting yourself up for more pain in the long run.. hugs
Author claycald Posted June 28, 2008 Author Posted June 28, 2008 idk... i just feel like she is confused. that night keeps playing in my head over and over again and the more i think about it the realization of it all sits in. i feel as if she was pressured by me and an outside source (more than likely her parents) to leave me. considering how hysterical she was and how she begged and pleaded with me, how she lunged out to hug me tight, how she flip flopped on reasons, how she said she loves me then say she doesnt love me, then for her to accept my calls when i was crying my eyes out while she spoke in a weak depressed tone. then to stop talking for about a month i randomly show up at her house she comes out to me and hugs me and talks to me as if everything is okay. what i find funny about that day is she was still wearing the 1 year anniversary ring i had given her. then for her to risk it all to speak to me after 8 months when her parents more than likely continously hound her on that decision. her parents dont want me around at all, so i know they played a major role when my ex decieded to leave me. then she never speaks about her boyfriend too me. i mentioned him in an email among other things she didnt acknowledge the fact i mentioned him she went on to talk about everything else i had mentioned.
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