u91746 Posted June 21, 2008 Posted June 21, 2008 Ran in to the BS of the OW with whom I had an EA today. He and I were actually becoming friends and I betrayed his trust as well...it's been about 6 months I guess now...we didn't speak...it was a large gathering. Do I ever apologize to him, offer to apologize or have any hope of restoring any semblance of friendship with him, or forgettaboutit? Thanks again for the thoughtful replies...
Screwedover Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 I suggest you give him a wide berth in your community, keep your head down and don't attempt an apology. Divert your eyes, try to avoid events where he will be, etc. He is probably having a hard enough time forgiving his wife. He doesn't need your apology on top of that. He will undoubtedly think it insincere and self-serving. (Is it?) You can't be friends. I'm sorry, but you and your affair partner have ruined that. I speak from the POV of a BS. My husband's affair partner tried to make friendly eye contact with me during a school event. It just infuriated me. Then she saw my best friend and issued an enthusiastic "HI!!!" My friend looked at her and kept walking. We were both pissed. In other words -- to be blunt -- most likely, you're not worthy of forgiveness, in his eyes. To assume that you are is arrogant, IMO.
LakesideDream Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 I can't see any upside to trying to be "friends" or even friendly with people you so recently tried to interfere with, and damage. If I were you I would just "lay low" as others have advised. You really cannot expect people to be pleasant and cordial with someone they dispise.
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