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there's a guy i've liked for awhile now.. he's what i want. he's cute, sweet, hilarious, but he says if we broke up, he'd be afraid of losing me.

we're physically attracted to each other, and we've talked about trying something sexual.. he gets jealous when i talk to other guys.

 

the other day, i started talking to another guy. this guy is very sweet, supportive, etc.. and wants to actually date me. he literally said i was pretty much the most amazing thing to hit this earth. he told me he would never hurt me, would take care of me, etc.

he's all i could ever ask for, but i don't want to be with him.

 

first off, i don't want to stop seeing or hanging out with the first guy.. and i don't want to lose him if i'm in a relationship. i don't think it would be fair to the the second guy if i dated him while wanting someone else.

 

everything i want is in front of me, and yet i don't want it.

what do i do?

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Try going on casual dates with the both of them and then decide who you feel you have the most chemistry with. Sometimes you have to test the water before jumping in.

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there's a guy i've liked for awhile now.. he's what i want. he's cute, sweet, hilarious, but he says if we broke up, he'd be afraid of losing me.

we're physically attracted to each other, and we've talked about trying something sexual.. he gets jealous when i talk to other guys.

 

the other day, i started talking to another guy. this guy is very sweet, supportive, etc.. and wants to actually date me. he literally said i was pretty much the most amazing thing to hit this earth. he told me he would never hurt me, would take care of me, etc.

he's all i could ever ask for, but i don't want to be with him.

 

first off, i don't want to stop seeing or hanging out with the first guy.. and i don't want to lose him if i'm in a relationship. i don't think it would be fair to the the second guy if i dated him while wanting someone else.

 

everything i want is in front of me, and yet i don't want it.

what do i do?

 

The guy that is saying all the sweet things to you is trying to "sell" himself to you and that does not create attraction. That is why you do not want was is in front of you. And I don't blame you. If he has to sell himself that hard, something is wrong.

 

Secondly while your eyes on the first guy, you'd be doing a disservice to the second guy.

 

Why not skip the both of them and keep your options open?

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