seamaid Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 I've had a profile up on a well-known internet dating site for a couple months now. Well recently, a man responded to my profile with interest. He was from a city thousands of miles away from me, but it's where I hope to relocate to, IF I get hired at this one company there. I haven't applied yet, but was in the middle of preparations to apply. Well--lo and behold, in his 2nd email to me, he tells me he works in a top level position in the same company I hope to join! Eek! He wouldn't be my 'boss' actually, as it's a different but closely related section of the company, so it's not like he has control over whether I get hired or not, but I see this as a very bizarre (and possibly brilliant) opportunity. If you were in my position, how would you handle this situation? Obviously he would be a goldmine of information and I want to "exploit" that to my advantage, haha. But at the same time, I feel like I can't act like all I want is job-related info from him, because how much I get from him depends on how much he's getting out of me, and he is simply attracted to me as a potential dating possibility. Of course he can't really date me, unless I get hired there and relocate! And if I get hired there, I don't know if we should date at all (company policy?). Hmm... I'm afraid that he'll drop contact if he thinks all I want is a leg up. I want to play my cards right, and have him on my side, possibly putting in a good word for me. Should I flirt? Should I simply act respectful?
curiousnycgirl Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 I would be upfront and honest with him. Tell him it's an amazing coincidence but you were in the process of putting together your application to his company - the if you feel like it you can jokingly ask if he's got any tips. The I would see how he responds. If he's a poop head about it, then who cares. If he's great about, then great!
carhill Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 Second the suggestion to be straight up and honest. Maybe the karma train just stopped at your house
Author seamaid Posted June 20, 2008 Author Posted June 20, 2008 Thank you, curiousnycgirl and Carhill. I'll take your advice to be honest. -seamaid
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