lovegilrfriend Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 Men & Women Keep Score Differently Knowing how the opposite sex keeps score in a relationship is a key secret to not only having a very happy and fulfilling relationship...but also is critical to understand in getting a failed relationship back on track. Both men and women do keep a subconscious "point system". -Men typically award more points if an action is BIG, and less points if an action is small. -Women typically give one point no matter how big or small. Reread that if you have to...it sounds like no big whoop...but it is huge. Big problems arise because when we are trying to win points...we are thinking using our own "gender's mindset". So say a man wants to score "points" with a woman. He thinks like a man and says to himself...I am going to do something REALLY BIG and score a lot of points at one time... "Yeah...than I will be good to go for a couple weeks...or maybe even a month!" So...he goes out and does "something big"...like buying a very expensive piece of jewelery... Which any woman would be ecstatic to receive... But... The problem is he then mistakenly calculates that he really doesn't need to do anything more...for awhile... Now...MOST women...if given a choice between getting a piece of jewelery OR...getting a love note one day...an unexpected "I just called to say I love you" telephone call the next day...a single rose the next...and many SMALL things often...will go with the "many small things often" over the one HUGE thing 90% of the time. Does that make sense? Does it make sense now why some arguments go like this: Woman: "Why don't you bring me flowers anymore?" Man: Very...very aggravated..."WHAT?... I just bought you a gold necklace JUST LAST MONTH!" Ever sound familiar? You see...all along he's thinking he is good to go for quite some time BECAUSE that is how MEN KEEP SCORE. (Note: Gentleman if you are thinking "How can I come up with so many ways to earn points with her?" Visit this link right now. Click Here.) Now ladies...this works...or doesn't work in the reverse too. Women generally do nice "little" things every day... And they mistakenly believe they are "racking up" a lot of points. Pick up his dry cleaning 1 point Give him a back massage 1 point Leave him a little love note 1 point and on and on... But what happens? A big argument ensues because she feels she has racked up all of these points...and he never shows any appreciation for all of the points she has earned. See...in "his" mind he does appreciate those little things...but he doesn't keep score that way...and is not going to make a big deal out of a few one pointers. See, the girl would be much better off...if she would have just bought tickets to a BIG ballgame...she would have scored like 50 points all at ONCE...and SHE would be good to go for weeks! And he would tell all of his friends and thank her profusely as well as NEVER FORGETTING the time she bought tickets to the big playoff game. Cuz' that's just the way it works with men. (Ladies want to know ways to score HUGE points with men? Click Here.) So how do you use this to win back your ex boyfriend's, ex girlfriends or ex spouses heart? Pretty simple... Guys you will be much better off doing a series of small things. Gals you need to figure out ONE BIG thing. But if you are "on the rocks"...it is a little more difficult...right? There is a way to get around this... Fellas I highly recommend The Magic Of Making Up because this will get you "back into position" to score the points quickly. Ladies...if you are confused about if he still cares...With the resources in The Magic Of Making Up you can find out today. Plus, learn easy things you can do to rack up BIG points and some other wonderful easy to implement techniques. (And No I don't mean SEX.) Check it out here: How To Get Back Your Ex Both of these guides have my highest recommendation because they work and are very inexpensive. If it is important to you to revive your relationship...it would be silly not to have these at your side. http://gettingyourboyfriendback.blogspot.com/2008/06/suggestions-for-getting-my-boyfriend.html
Author lovegilrfriend Posted June 20, 2008 Author Posted June 20, 2008 Confused? Most men AND women are very confused when someone they care for deeply exits a relationship. Their ex boyfriends, girlfriends and spouses give MANY and varied reasons why they left. They give so many reasons that put together they make NO since. To add to the confusion, it seems the "reasons" change every time you ask! The good news is there is one core reason why men leave women...and one core reason a woman will leave a man... They are very different...and you are about to learn THE REAL REASON which is NOT only crucial for you to understand if you want ANY chance of getting them back...but also will help you keep the relationship on track once you are back together. (Note: I highly recommend you read both sections, Why Men Leave Women and Why Women Leave Men) Why Men Leave Women Men! They give several...if not a dozen different reasons they don't want to be around anymore. Are they trying to confuse you on purpose? >No not at all...polls and relationship studies show varied "reasons" men give are often because they have problems sorting out their own feelings...and have trouble putting their feelings into words. It was even quite a challenge for relationship experts and psychologists to sort it all out! Dr. John Gray and other experts concluded from hundreds of different responses that men primarily...start losing interest...and will eventually leave a relationship when they stop feeling ADMIRED... Men want to feel ADMIRED! When they stop feeling admired this is a major frontal attack on not only their self esteem, but calls their "manhood" into question. Now...at first this may seem all to simple...and a little unbelievable...But when you start to give it some thought...you will realize how TRUE it really is... And you can bet dollars to donuts...that no red-blooded man is going to say...I don't feel admired anymore... Let's talk about some common situations that go on around the world everyday. Harry meets Sally. And when they first meet Sally is quite taken with Harry and she lets him know it very often by giving him many compliments...but most importantly...Sally always is smiling and seems VERY HAPPY when Harry is around. This is a MAJOR clue... You see men measure by and large how well they are doing in a relationship...and how "admired" they are by... How happy their woman appears to them! To a man: HAPPY WOMAN = ADMIRATION THIS IS WHY...in thousands of men polled on of the recurring reasons over and over about why a man left was the following statement: "No matter what I did...I couldn't make her happy anymore." This is ALSO the #1 reason why a man will CHEAT. While we watch movie after movie that seems to portray a man going after a "prettier" woman...this is far from the truth why a man cheats... If a man does not feel admired in the relationship he is in...when another woman comes along and makes him FEEL ADMIRED...then that relationship is at risk of infidelity... A smily, happy and giggly coworker that showers him with compliments and beams whenever he walks in the room... is an incredible ADMIRATION builder and turn on for a man...that does NOT feel admired at home. This has much LESS affect...and is NOT a threat when a man feels admired at home. It may be "nice"...like when a woman receives a compliment from another man...but is happy with her partner. So you maybe wondering...if you have to go around like a gitty, giggly, school girl to get your man back? Not at all. Think about this...a man feels admired when the woman he is with is HAPPY with him. There are dozens of things that you can do...but it is important to understand that one of the key killers...that men complain most often about it is nagging. Nagging is the fastest killer of a man feeling admired. Does that mean you can't express your feelings about what you want? You most certainly can you just have to do it in a more effective way... So how do you start to get your ex back? You start making him feel admired again ...but at the same time...you need to keep YOUR dignity...and get what you want! This is very easy to do once you learn a few skills...If you are serious about getting your "man" back...keeping him once you have got him back...or even if you are in a good relationship now and want to ensure a long healthy relationship... I want you to go grab this book right now... It is called The Magic Of Making Up and will show you exactly what you need to do to make your fella feel admired again...and at the SAME TIME...keep your dignity and get what you want and need from your relationship. This is what they call an electronic book or eBook...which means you can download it instantly...and start in the next 5 minutes. It is very inexpensive...but more importantly The Magic Of Making Up is surprisingly effective...you will be amazed at how well it really works... Click Here & Get Your Copy An Advance Apology: The Magic Of Making Up is very effective...but the website looks a little "cheesy" Why Women Leave Men Women are truly amazing. And they will put up with a lot of crap without ever thinking about leaving a relationship as long as they feel ONE primary emotion. Surprisingly, compared to men...it was much easier for relationship experts and psychologists to pinpoint why a woman leaves a man...than it was the other way around. And if they feel this one emotion...they are incredibly loyal! A rich and handsome multi-millionaire can pay them a great compliment...and sure...they will feel flattered...but they are not about to leave a man they love and that makes them FEEL APPRECIATED. Women want, need and crave APPRECIATION. The most common remark and underlying message when women were asked in studies and polls on why they left a man was... "He never appreciated anything I did for him!" Now...when a woman stops feeling appreciated. Your relationship is in big trouble... A woman will not stay in a relationship and WILL LEAVE if she feels that you do not appreciate her... This is one of the underlying reasons why infidelity is so devastating to a woman...if you have had an affair...they immediately feel that YOU have ZERO appreciation for them... And this is almost always why the very first question after a woman learns of an infedility is ...."Do You Love Her?" asking if you love the woman you had the affair with..or was it just a fling? Also... your girl is much more likely to fall prey to another man who comes in and shows her even the tiniest bit of appreciation. If a woman has left you...your very first steps are to start letting her know that you APPRECIATE her... Now...a BIG WARNING... Women seem to have a built in LIE DETECTOR...and if you try to BS them...they know!...and if you do not do it correctly...you are going to do more damage than good. Also...a major mistake men make when trying to show their appreciation...is not understanding that men and women have VERY DIFFERENT WAYS OF KEEPING SCORE... To get your woman back...you have to let her know that you appreciated and still do appreciate her... You can not just tell her...you have to show her as well...and you have to know HER scoring system...how SHE keeps score... These are actually really easy things to learn. If you still appreciate your girl, which I am assuming you do if you are wanting to get her back...you have to know how to SHOW HER... Here is one of the absolutely best guides you will find on getting your girl back by showing and proving to her how much you appreciate her...it is called The Magic Of Making Up You can have it right now and get started today because it is set up as an INSTANT DOWNLOAD. Go grab your copy of The Magic Of Making Up right now...it only cost peanuts...seriously...it will be the best money you ever spend...You will know EXACTLY what to do to get your GIRL BACK and be surprised at how well your ex responds to what you have learned. IT WORKS...PERIOD! Click Here To Get Your Copy Hey...let me give you a little WARNING The Magic Of Making Up is awesome...but the website is a little weird, but very entertaining. An ending note for BOTH Men and Women. Every minute you wait is another minute that you risk having ANOTHER man or ANOTHER woman making YOUR MAN feel admired...or YOUR WOMAN feeling appreciated. So for some odd reason you don't grab The Magic Of Making Up ---which for the life of me I can't see why you wouldn't Men go out there and make your woman feel appreciated...and ladies go make your make your man feel admired again! Have questions? I'd love to hear from you! My Blog: Getting your ex Boyfriend BackHow To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
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