xpaperxcutx Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 I just turned down another invite to hang out. The guy's pretty cute, but I'm just not in the mood.... I feel like sleeping.
D-Jam Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 I just turned down another invite to hang out. The guy's pretty cute, but I'm just not in the mood.... I feel like sleeping. OK...no problem. Any reason why you posted it? Do you like this guy? If you do, may I suggest then you hand him a counteroffer next time? "Hey, thanks for the invite. I'm flattered, but I'm also exhausted and want to sleep tonight. Would you want to get together on Sunday instead?"
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 20, 2008 Author Posted June 20, 2008 OK...no problem. Any reason why you posted it? Do you like this guy? If you do, may I suggest then you hand him a counteroffer next time? "Hey, thanks for the invite. I'm flattered, but I'm also exhausted and want to sleep tonight. Would you want to get together on Sunday instead?" I don't know whether I like the guy or not, but I guess there is potential. I just don't want to become a one night stand. I'm a little skeptical about meeting a person I don't know. My mind is fluttering with thoughts about what might happen.
Lucasarts Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 funny i passed up three opportunities at work with cute girls i don't know why, i really found one of the girls to be rather beautiful and very sexy. . . and i knew she liked me, she told one of my co-workers that i was cute. i guess i just wasn't feeling it i understand your thinking, lots of thoughts but nothing worth worrying about, just take it as a compliment to your looks.
D-Jam Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 I don't know whether I like the guy or not, but I guess there is potential. I just don't want to become a one night stand. I'm a little skeptical about meeting a person I don't know. My mind is fluttering with thoughts about what might happen. Eh, dating is about taking chances. No one said you have to sleep with the guy on the first date. Set ground rules in your mind. Go out, spend an evening with him, get to know him. If he tries to make out with you or get you to come to a private place with sex on his mind, then just decline. Tell him you want to take things slow. If he drops you after that, then you know he wasn't a good man. You just have to remember that dating is about taking chances, meeting strangers, but also taking your time. Too many people want everything to be all instantaneous. They want hot chemistry on the first meet and then a relationship within a month. Doesn't work that way.
Cov Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 I don't know whether I like the guy or not, but I guess there is potential. I just don't want to become a one night stand. I'm a little skeptical about meeting a person I don't know. My mind is fluttering with thoughts about what might happen. The bold text says it all, really. You are control of your actions, if you don't want a one night stand then do have a one night stand, it is that simple. I gather you don't trust yourself? If you are skeptical about meeting people you don't know, then how do you make new friends? Do you not to go house parties and various other social events? It sounds as though you could do with forgetting about boys, men, relationships and dating and just go out with your girlies for a nice evening out or several.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 20, 2008 Author Posted June 20, 2008 Eh, dating is about taking chances. No one said you have to sleep with the guy on the first date. Set ground rules in your mind. Go out, spend an evening with him, get to know him. If he tries to make out with you or get you to come to a private place with sex on his mind, then just decline. Tell him you want to take things slow. If he drops you after that, then you know he wasn't a good man. You just have to remember that dating is about taking chances, meeting strangers, but also taking your time. Too many people want everything to be all instantaneous. They want hot chemistry on the first meet and then a relationship within a month. Doesn't work that way. Yeah I know, I know it's just I'm sloppy at dating So I took the plunge and texted him that we could hang out on Fri next week. The thing I'm most skeptical is that we have a 6 yr difference (me 18 and him 24). I'm not used to dating guys that old () most of my past dates, were like 2 or 3 years older. And the thing is that I had asked my bestie for advice, and we thought that we might go meet this guy together, if need be. I mean do you think that's advisable? Having a third wheel around means that he won't have the nerve to put the moves on me.
Trialbyfire Posted June 21, 2008 Posted June 21, 2008 *highjack alert* Wow, papercutx, I had no idea you were only 18. You come across as quite a bit older. As for dating a 24 year old, don't sweat it. With your maturity level, it won't be a big deal. Def. don't let him convince you to take the leap into bed, if it's not what you want to do!
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 21, 2008 Author Posted June 21, 2008 *highjack alert* Wow, papercutx, I had no idea you were only 18. You come across as quite a bit older. As for dating a 24 year old, don't sweat it. With your maturity level, it won't be a big deal. Def. don't let him convince you to take the leap into bed, if it's not what you want to do! How old did you think I was? lol
Trialbyfire Posted June 21, 2008 Posted June 21, 2008 How old did you think I was? lol Somewhere in your mid-twenties.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 21, 2008 Author Posted June 21, 2008 Somewhere in your mid-twenties. I think i have a few years ahead of me before I reach my mid twenties... but I'm glad to hear that you think I'm mature. But yeah what do you think of a 24 year old asking an 18 yr old out? Is he just looking to have fun or what?
Trialbyfire Posted June 21, 2008 Posted June 21, 2008 I think i have a few years ahead of me before I reach my mid twenties... but I'm glad to hear that you think I'm mature. But yeah what do you think of a 24 year old asking an 18 yr old out? Is he just looking to have fun or what? Most 24 year olds are looking for fun, regardless of what age they ask out. As long as you're firm in your refusal, your average, fairly civilized guy will back off. No mixed messages!!!
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 21, 2008 Author Posted June 21, 2008 Most 24 year olds are looking for fun, regardless of what age they ask out. As long as you're firm in your refusal, your average, fairly civilized guy will back off. No mixed messages!!! that's what I thought.... so then I should bring my bestie with?
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