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I work for him, so no NC, and he's too passive to be mean to!

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melodymatters Established Member

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Ugh, my story isn't that interesting, just another " conflicted guy" who " loves me" but is really " confused". Lets all gag together.:sick:

 

Anyway, today was the first time I had to see him, as I work as his rental agent and live on his property ( and as a current FL Realtor, and single mom, the money is way too good to be prideful about and leave )

 

So, his take, is that he tried to kick out the asexual pyscho GF of 6 months, but felt too guilty, and when I said " I'm out" he let me go because it wasn't fair to me. MY take, is that I deal with reality, and at the end of the day, he chose her, not " us". End of story.

 

So we had to meet today for business reasons, and I planned on being mature and cool, which I was, but he was so pathetic, I am having a hard time hanging on to my anger. I WILL NOT be his "friend" as people don't get to pick "parts" of me to keep.

 

I do have ex's that became friends, but that was after some time had passed, and I could totally look at them as " Joe, what a loveable lunkhead" !

 

So, guess I'm just looking for strength here, and taking the opportunity to vent.

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Mel, I'm sorry. I was afraid to jinx anything by posting in your other thread it was going so nicely....

 

Vent away sister. Spew, swear, rip and tear!

 

{{{{Mel}}}

 

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carhill Established Member

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I'll bet he wanted a companion and some sex but not a R. Then, when you go to leave, he's all "OK, if that's what you want" :sick:

 

{{{{{{MM}}}}}}

 

All I can say is I'd like to whack women upside the head who race past grounded and engaged men like myself to get at these "guys". Fix 'em if you can....

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Thanks guys !

 

Carrot, yeah, I was scared to jinx it by posting myself, guess the LS curse strikes again ! Thanks for your hugs, and I hope you and GD can get it right this time !

 

Carhill, he's a wuss, my first attempt at " nice guy" and nice guy is too nice to kick out the psycho asexual termite living in his home.

 

But, it's a choice, I am aware that there are long ranging feelings there ( they worked together for 4 yrs, he finally confessed his crush, they had a nice week together and he moved her across the country, THEN things went to hell) And if someone needs to choose their fantasy, over MY reality, thats what they get.

 

So, I didn't go for the "bad boy" this time and still got jacked !

 

Thanks, I usually give advice here, but I needed some strength myself today !

Trialbyfire Established Member

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Are you ready to be yelled at yet, mm?

carhill Established Member

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psycho asexual termite

 

Yes, that's my newest best phrase. I know this person! :D

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melodymatters Established Member

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Are you ready to be yelled at yet, mm?

 

 

Yell away baby, yell away ! Damn the torpedo's, give it to me good TBF !!!!!

Trialbyfire Established Member

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Yell away baby, yell away ! Damn the torpedo's, give it to me good TBF !!!!!

He was a walking BIG, RED FLAG!!!!!!!!

 

Okay, I feel better now. While I was glad to see you happy in your first thread, this dude was a bad, bad risk.

 

The good part is that you called him on his b/s and he couldn't put those words to action. Watch out for the rubberbanding that will happen in the next few months!

 

Beyond that, ((hugs)) for sympathy.

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Thanks TBF ! I'm a big fan of tough love myself ( ask the three teenagers I basically raise, only one of whom is mine)

 

You are absolutely right about the red flags, I was just so used to "bad boy" rock musician, biker, narcissist doctor, wealthy shady business man, Red flags, that I never even saw the ones nerd boy was waving.

 

It was like being scared of the curly haired tot running the lemonaide stand !

 

So, please do keep helping, and explain : this is my first internet forum ( and last LS, I swear it !) and i'm not a self help book reader, what does " rubber banding mean exactly ?

Trialbyfire Established Member

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He'll bounce back and forth between you and his live-in, spewing words of love and angst. Grrrr...

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Ugh, my story isn't that interesting, just another " conflicted guy" who " loves me" but is really " confused". Lets all gag together.:sick:

 

Anyway, today was the first time I had to see him, as I work as his rental agent and live on his property ( and as a current FL Realtor, and single mom, the money is way too good to be prideful about and leave )

 

So, his take, is that he tried to kick out the asexual pyscho GF of 6 months, but felt too guilty, and when I said " I'm out" he let me go because it wasn't fair to me. MY take, is that I deal with reality, and at the end of the day, he chose her, not " us". End of story.

 

So we had to meet today for business reasons, and I planned on being mature and cool, which I was, but he was so pathetic, I am having a hard time hanging on to my anger. I WILL NOT be his "friend" as people don't get to pick "parts" of me to keep.

 

I do have ex's that became friends, but that was after some time had passed, and I could totally look at them as " Joe, what a loveable lunkhead" !

 

So, guess I'm just looking for strength here, and taking the opportunity to vent.

 

 

Loveable lunkhead, LOL! :laugh:

 

Melody, You know.. You have so much strength girl..Your a super great person.:) Hang in there.

 

AP:)

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Got it, thanks. There were attempts at this today, but i kept it to business, and a cool, friendly, whatever attitude.

 

I just always cut them out like a tumour, so the having to see him and communicate here and there is what caused me to post this in the first place.

 

I think I proved( to me, to him, to the Gods) that he didn't have that much affect on me, by not being immature and overreacting to necessary contact, but I think next time, I'm going to have my keys in my hand, and be "just running out", and make sure NO personal conversation eeks it's way in.

Trialbyfire Established Member

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Good! Stay strong mm. This dude is bad news!

carhill Established Member

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Definite path of least resistance guy. Is momma still in the picture?

 

I ask because I had a strong-willed mother whom I had to break away from very forcefully (or so my perception was). I still catch myself supplicating to females; the old momma tape is pretty strong.

 

Take the money, keep it professional and be watchful for a good man being interested in you. He's just around the bend :)

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Stay strong and keep it professional.

 

If I were you I would be casually looking for alternate employment. Just in case he decides he decides to be a real jerk.

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