MissingMyHubby Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Quick preface: Asked out girl I have known but never met in person, we went on a date, she enjoyed my presense. Took her to a concert a couple days later. Was a blast. 3rd date was spent overnight at her apt (she lives 2 hours away) on my way to see my friend in a neighboring state. Nothing physical except a bit of kissing. 4th "date" was spent from Monday this week until just now. I slept over her house for 2 nights, and things got physical (all the way) the last 2 nights. We seem to be hitting it off very well, have similar personalities (passive, agreeable), humor, and so forth. Now for my questions: 1. Besides obvious lovemaking, there isn't a whole lot of initiation brought on by her in terms of just normal touching throughout the day. She never shuns my advances, but I get the vibe she is uninterested or bored. How do I ask her to be more touchy with me without saying "Hey are you just unaffectionate or what?" (My last ex could never keep her hands off me.) 2. Is there a problem when the girl falls asleep on you this early on? On this most recent 3 day "date", she fell asleep on me the 1st night, and almost did the 3rd night, but she woke up to dogs barking, and then we made love. I am the type to build up resentment if my sexual needs aren't met. I was probably over-analyzing like usual and took her falling asleep as her being uninterested in me. My friend corrected my thoughts by telling me "it just means shes comfortable around you. thats a good sign" Is he right? Thanks
audrey_1 Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Now for my questions: 1. Besides obvious lovemaking, there isn't a whole lot of initiation brought on by her in terms of just normal touching throughout the day. She never shuns my advances, but I get the vibe she is uninterested or bored. How do I ask her to be more touchy with me without saying "Hey are you just unaffectionate or what?" (My last ex could never keep her hands off me.) This sounds like my exact situation. But he's working on it after we discussed it. He asks me for kisses now when I start to leave, etc. I left in entirely in HIS court. I want him to remember that it matters to me on his own. But it's still not where I'd like it to be. I don't think they're bored, just not interested in it or don't know how. Since my guy is trying, in his case I think it's just that he didn't know how. He's pretty shy anyway. 2. Is there a problem when the girl falls asleep on you this early on? On this most recent 3 day "date", she fell asleep on me the 1st night, and almost did the 3rd night, but she woke up to dogs barking, and then we made love. I am the type to build up resentment if my sexual needs aren't met. I was probably over-analyzing like usual and took her falling asleep as her being uninterested in me. My friend corrected my thoughts by telling me "it just means shes comfortable around you. thats a good sign" Is he right? IMO, he's right. I can only speak for myself, but it would be because I felt comfortable, could let my guard down. That's a nice feeling.
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