littledream Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 DAMN IT! I just had to go and send him a message on msn. GRRRR! I was promising myself to give NC a go for at least a month, if not longer and what do I do...I got and break it only after 16 days! 16 DAYS!?! Damn it! All I wrote was a thank you for sending my post with a mutual friend of ours, and let him know that the last package from my mom was being fwd to to his address (as it was my mailing address before we broke up). And now, I'm just so mad at myself for putting myself in another vunerable position. I'm still very much in love with him and can't get it in my head that he doesn't feel the same way! GRRRR! I'm such a hypocrite - I write on these boards that NC is good because it helps you to avoid being disappointed when you don't get the reply you want or hope for. As for my ex, I'll be lucky if he even replies. Damn it. Why am I still holding on? WHY have I given him the power over me!!! Why am I hoping that he'll reply? ARGH! My head says one thing but my heart won't listen...
kizik Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Don't worry about it. This is not as big a deal as you and everyone make it out to be. So you had 16 days in which you didn't talk. Great. Now you sent him a message. Fine! You wrote him to give him pertinent info. Don't worry about it! Stop beating yourselves up, people. You're human and you do things. They aren't necessarily right or wrong.
motive2002 Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 You went longer than most. It's a setback, yes, but not too bad. You can go right back to NC anytime. There's no rules to it really. Most find that once they break NC, it's enough to prevent them from wanting to do it again.
kizik Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 Sometimes good can come of it. When I broke NC and got a chipper response, it helped me to realize she was totally happy w/o me. And that I should really try to be happy w/o her.
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